Confused by his question

Avatar for sk3035
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Confused by his question
Sun, 07-29-2012 - 8:46pm

After the first date, the guy texts you and asks "Can I date you?"

What does this mean?

- Is he just making sure of my interest in him

- Is he asking me to be his girlfriend

- Is he looking to pursue me seriously

- Is he looking a faster way to get into my pants

Avatar for khatru1
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-07-2004
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 8:41am
how about you call him and ask him what he means? Why beat yourself to death trying to read between the lines.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2010
Tue, 07-31-2012 - 9:52am
I think you just need to be patient. Don't overthink his every move.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-30-2012 - 11:23am

I always look at actions more than words.  saying "can I date you?" means nothing unless he actually calls & asks you out for more dates.  I think he asked cause he wanted to knowif there was any interest.  If you had said no, then that would be that.  But since you said yes, he figures you have some interest--for anything more you don't know yet.