Confused with no on-line responses
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| Fri, 08-26-2005 - 6:54pm |
I've been trying the on-line dating again in the last few months. One thing has been confusing to me and I hope some of you can answer it. I've sent out some e-mails (not winks/icebreakers) and I haven't received a single response. In my e-mails I keep them short with a few open ended questions, usually a compliment/flirt, and mention something from their profile where we match. It ends with a way to contact me outside of that service if they're not subscribers, written in a spelled out way where the autoedits wouldn't revise or delete them. (I've tested this out before.)
Where I'm confused is that I'm receiving no responses after several weeks--positive or rejects. (I would appreciate rejects over not knowing.) My question is that why are women sitting on my e-mails without doing one or the other? A few years ago when I was on, if someone didn't respond within two weeks, I generally wrote them off as not interested since them deleting didn't indicate it. On Match.com today, if someone deleted my e-mail, it would let me know they're not interested, (which again I tested) so I know they aren't deleting them. Are they holding onto them waiting for a second e-mail to see if I'm truly interested, too overwhelmed with other contacts, or some other reason?

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I have to agree with you completely on this one. I was completely disappointed with Match this time around, (Had used it several years ago and liked it.) I did not renew my membership. I found that True.com was more user friendly and they also have a chat room. I had put a profile up over a year ago and had forgotten about it, and one day I got an email that they had offered me a free month's membership
That's funny what you said about the girls not deleting him because they don't think he's so bad to look at! There is a 36 yr old guy from FL, I am in MI, nad even though I told him we are too far apart, he is funny and has this huge smile that when I look at my who's viewed me, when I see his great smile, it makes me smile. So I haven't deleted him yet either! How funny!
But for me Match was better than Yahoo Personals. I think it all depends on your location really with each service. Match doesn't have the IM anymore which some people don't like about it. But I rarely talk on IM anymore because so many guys, especially at night, just want to hook up for sex and that isn't for me. So the lack of IM is fine with me.
Doing OLD does go in streaks though, so when I feel burned out about it, I take a break from doing OLD and refresh, and when I try it again I feel much better about it and have a better attitude.
This pertains to an earlier post on this thread concerning a person receiving a "not interested" message automatically from the the other person when that other person has deleted email from them. I asked one of the guys that I had been emailing with if he had gotten anything like that from me and he said no and I had deleted a couple of his emails, so I don't think that happens. If we get a "not interested" message from the person, they have checked that themselves and aren't interested in us apparently. Next I say!!!
Sunshine
I've had better luck...if you could call it that;P...with match as well. I've been on it twice and each time I met both my boyfriends within the first week. In between I used Yahoo Personals for 3 months and only had one meet! I'd get all these ice-breakers, reply to a few and nothing. Then the ice-breakers sort of dried up too. In the meantime, I still had my profile on match and was getting winks and emails I couldn't respond to so when Yahoo expired I went back to match, replied to all the winks/emails that had stacked up and a week later had my first meet with my last boyfriend.
Chele
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