Contacted 6 months after a wink?
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| Sat, 01-07-2006 - 2:40pm |
I was online this morning when I got a pop up asking for permission to add someone to my Yahoo friend list. I didn't recognize the name, and there was no profile, so it made me sort of wary, as I was once hounded by a guy I'd met on Match.com that turned out to have been a guy who'd spent 6 years in jail for rape. (H'e pop up ever couple months on my IM, although I'd ignore him every time.) I almost didn't allow them, but I was curious, so I did, and sent an IM asking who it was. They were still there, and they said that I had sent them an Icebreaker on Yahoo Personals a while back, with my IM name, and he wondered if I still wanted to chat. Well, I haven't been on Yahoo Personlas for about 6 months, so I had no idea who it was. But he sent me a link to his profile, and I did remember winking at him, so we started chatting. And the ironic thing is, he's on Match.com, too, which is where I've been for the last 9 months or so as well, and I had winked at him there 9 months ago when I first signed up, but he never responded.
So, do you find something odd about being contacted 6 months after you wink at someone? Or am I just reading something into it that I shouldn't?

In my opinion, I think it's fine, depending on the circumstances. I know that when I begin actively dating someone I keep my profile up but often ignore mail and winks because I like to date one person at a time. If things don't work out, then I'm actively looking again and sometimes want to try out those winks.
Not that the person is second best, but the guy I was dating technically came first....does that make sense?
I'm not insulted by that kind of thing.....
Also, sometimes what appeals to me now doesn't appeal to me 3 months later and vice versa, as I'm learning exactly what I'm looking for.
As long as someone didn't stand me up or totally ghost on me after repeated correspondence, I will give them a chance if I'd normally be interested in their *type*.