Contacted twice by the same guy

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Contacted twice by the same guy
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 10:42am

I am kind of dabbling in OLD, not very seriously. I have a profile on POF since it's free. I might look once in a while. so far nothing is working out that well--I have contacted a couple of guys, but they didn't write back. So a few weeks ago one guy contacted me, his profile seemed ok, but not that interesting as far as common interests, but I figured I'd write back. So I wrote back a few questions one of which was what kind of movies did he like (cause that was listed as one of his interests) and his answer was "I like all kinds of movies." He didn't say anything else or ask anything about me, so I just figured forget it. I'm not going to do all the work and I at least want to get some sense that the person is interesting enough to meet.

so now I get another email just saying "hi"--which is another one I wouldn't even bother with unless the profile seemed great. It's the same guy, but he changed his screen name and added a few things to his profile. Like now he lists all the movies that he likes. lol I don't know if he doesn't remember he contacted me before or figures I won't remember him--but he had the same picture!

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Tue, 09-28-2010 - 9:56pm
The emails that just say "hi" are just a bit sad. I would of rather they saved me the time and just winked. Or you have the generic emails. I had one guy comment on me filling out all of the fields of my profile and being new... he only had one photo which seemed a bit generic like it could have just been copied so I haven't written him back.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 09-26-2010 - 6:33pm
THe new user name makes it sound like he's a Nazi, so I'm wondering can he be that clueless that he picks a name like that? I wouldn't hold it against him if I thought he was interesting, but I didn't like him the 1st time.
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 6:52pm

I've had it happen when I was on line, then went off for a while and then went back on. Some of the same guys who I had contacted first the first time wrote me back the second time as if we had never had contact before.

Duh. I just nexted them.

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Registered: 08-02-2010
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 2:04pm

Maybe he had a problem with the other user name and he wanted you to know he was still interested and had changed his profile. I would give him a chance and you can always ask him why he changed things.

I have had multiple profile names over the past 10 years. It's like a fresh start.