Could he have left any more quickly...?
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| Sun, 03-18-2007 - 10:05am |
St. Paddy's Day was a lot of fun. A nice dinner followed by jazz club, back to my place, and R and I crashed, after some kisses (but no sex of any kind, just making out). It was a lot of fun. He asked a lot of q's and seems to like me. He was discussing where he'd like to take me for dinner the next time, what kind of wedding I want, what my pet peeves re guys are, etc. We drank a bit, but nothing got too out of hand.
I woke up this morning slightly hung over, so I got in the shower and closed the BR door so as not to wake him up.I got out of the shower and he was up and said he had to head out cause they were delivering mulch to his house some time today. It seemed kind of abrupt to me. He gave me a really nice hug and said he'd call later and I am sure he will, but no coffee ore breakfast? I am maybe reading too much into this, but it seemed almost like he was raring to take off, which according to "He's Just Not that into You," is not a good sign (?)
He told me he will call me later and I know he will, but I am having a hard time reading him. Any thoughts?
Thanks,
GB

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Yep. I agree. He is TOTALLY stringing you along.
I actually don't blame men for looking at other women, because it is the way you guys are wired but I do blame them if they dont' at least try to conceal it a little around their significant others ;-)
Pinning a person down won't do anything though. If a person isn't honest, will they be honest when backed against a wall? Doubtful. Sometimes it's better to just walk away and learn from an experience, don't you think?
"I know that you don't want to call him but at this point he keeps saying he is going to call and then doesn't... why don't you just call him and ask him what is going on. Pin him down and make him answer you."
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Why bother?
Look, the guy is clearly demonstrating what he thinks and how he feels. He isn't bothering to actually CALL HER. That, right there, tells you everything you need to know.
She should just move on. Why pin him down? What good does that do? Nothing. HJNTIher- she should move on.
I agree. I have been in the OPs shoes where things *seemed* so good when we were together, but then the dude would drop the ball, or not call, or wait too long to call or just not be clear in some way or another.
I've been dating a guy for the past month or so who has driven it home how a man behaves when he IS into you - it makes me shake my head and wonder why I bothered with the other one when he was clearly just not that into me - no matter what he *said* his actions screamed otherwise - actions always speak louder than words! Whatever happens with this one, I'll take it as a lesson in how a man behaves when they are into you - and if they aren't really into you - why bother?
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If after 2 or 3 dates, the OP has to go through this much trouble to verify that he still is interested, then I think there's a problem. If he was interested, I don't think there'd be a question about it. My response would be different if they had been together for months. But it's only the first few dates.
At the end of the day, we're all adults. As an adult, you go after what you want. You don't say one thing and act out on another, ya know? He has proven himself to be unreliable and evasive. One thing about people is that if they want something, they will go after it.
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