Could use a little advice...

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Could use a little advice...
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Mon, 06-20-2005 - 9:03am

Hello, I've been lurking here for a couple of weeks and thought I would say hello and ask for some advice. I've been divorced for about a year and since then have done very little dating (right after my divorce my mom got sick and died). So, long story short I get bored and sign up for an equestrian dating website. I almost immediately regretted it because it creeps me out.

Well, this guy from texas, started emailing me and finally I awnsered one of them. So we emailed a few times and I got a wild hair up my butt and gave him my phone number. He called me and we talked and laughed for 4 hours. We have talked pretty much every day since then.

Anyway, my question is, can you really like someone just talking on the phone. I mean, I told myself, he can't want only sex because he will have to drive to meet me. And, because of the distance we will both have to put forth the effort to talk/be together. Any advice would be appreciated. Oh, and if this doesn't work out. I'll probably will be finished with OLD. ~Stacy

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 9:35am

Well, most of the guys and gals on the board here are going to say the same thing I'm about to:

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 9:51am

Stacy - what Stacey said. LOL

BTW - if you are talking about equestriansingles, I've used that one too, but with no luck. The local guys are too cowboyish (not cowboys - cowboyish - KWIM?) and the other two who were within a reasonable distance weren't good matches - one was a dressage queen - and in the closet, the other was looking for an armpiece, not a partner.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 10:08am

I think you can like the person you THINK they are, but not the real person, because you don't KNOW the real person yet. That takes spending time with them, in person.

As for whether he just wants sex...I think you'd be surprised at the lengths some men will go to. I'm not saying it's definitely the case with him, but there are definitely men out there who will buy plane tickets and fly long distances just so they can have sex.

Sheri