A couple guy in line here ... Hmmmm ....
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A couple guy in line here ... Hmmmm ....
| Thu, 11-30-2006 - 2:16am |
Seeing Carlos Friday - Sat this week (going to stay with him in Boston). I am finding ONE thing that is aggravating me - it shouldnt SUPRISE me, lol, 45


Hey chik... I've been reading the Carlos posts with interest and this last post made me wonder something... is it possible that Carlos wanted to be exclusive but based on your reaction he backed down? I'm getting the feeling that he does want more with you but that he may be a bit gunshy after your first convo? Dunno... just curious.
Well, like I said before, I'm still rooting for Carlos. But Rebecca, you are handling it perfectly. I understand Carlos since I'm a single, never-married woman with no kids. What I don't understand is his reluctance to have the "complications" you might bring into his simple (maybe sometimes boring) life (your ex, dogs, child, you...) In my opinion, the only inconvenience is your ex. Would he ever do something to physically hurt someone you are dating. Has he moved (er, better word, slime-d) on to someone else.
I think you should keep doing exactly what you are doing, but maybe be a tiny bit less available by phone. I'm not saying play games, I'm really not, but go out with your girlfriends or take your daughter out to a ballet class or something so you aren't always home in the evenings. Not to get him to decide what to do, but to get him to realize how special you are, so he doesn't even think about the "complications".
I may get booed for this, but I think Carlos has to see that maybe he isn't the only one who has to make a decision. I guess I'm just saying show him you love your new-found freedom in a ton of ways, so he knows that you aren't worrying about where he is in the relationship now. That might get him wondering if he can some day step out of his uncomplicated life for you.
I love the "you think too much" comment. You GO GIRL!!!
Chick