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Is this crazy?
| Fri, 01-05-2007 - 6:35pm |
I've been reading these posts for a few weeks now trying to get advice but i thought it was time that i asked you all myself.
I've met a guy online and we've been emailing 4 or 5 times a day, phoning each other a couple of times a week and i've discovered he is a really, really great guy. In his photos, he looks like the kind of guy i would choose to meet. When i showed my friends his pictures, they were all saying he was definitely my type. Now my question is, i guess, is this all crazy? Am i setting myself up to be hurt. The reason i ask is because i live in Australia, he in America. Am i wasting my time and energy talking to this guy who, if i ever meet, won't be for many, many months? I've never done this whole internet dating thing before and we met by chance on a totally non-dating website but just started emailing each other, so it's not like i was looking either.
I am totally confused and i don't know what to make of it all. I would really appreciate some advice, any advice!
I've met a guy online and we've been emailing 4 or 5 times a day, phoning each other a couple of times a week and i've discovered he is a really, really great guy. In his photos, he looks like the kind of guy i would choose to meet. When i showed my friends his pictures, they were all saying he was definitely my type. Now my question is, i guess, is this all crazy? Am i setting myself up to be hurt. The reason i ask is because i live in Australia, he in America. Am i wasting my time and energy talking to this guy who, if i ever meet, won't be for many, many months? I've never done this whole internet dating thing before and we met by chance on a totally non-dating website but just started emailing each other, so it's not like i was looking either.
I am totally confused and i don't know what to make of it all. I would really appreciate some advice, any advice!

If you're looking for more than a penpal, then YES, it's a little crazy ;-). I don't think that you can form ANY opinion as to how great he is until you meet and spend a significant amount of time together in person. If you can keep your interaction at the platonic friends level at least until you're able to meet, great, but don't go imagining yourself to be "in love" with someone you've never met.
I would focus on meeting people online with whom you can actually have an in-person relationship (i.e., men who live close to you). If and when you get to meet this man, great, but in the meantime, don't count on it coming to anything.
Sheri