Crazy date

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Crazy date
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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 7:59pm

I had a first meet last night and let's just say that I let loose.

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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Fri, 09-23-2005 - 10:44pm
He actually called me last night and left a message.
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Fri, 09-23-2005 - 10:51pm

You clarified well on the crotch grabbing, but who's butt was he slapping?

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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 12:20am
Two sides to every story.
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 7:27am
I wonder if maybe the way the fbombs were flying and how drunk you had gotten that he thought it was okay to speak to you that way etc. I mean you were out of the norm with the drinking and making out with him, maybe he was too.
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 8:38am

Of course.

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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 12:18pm
He slapped my ass, grabbed his own crotch, pulled down my shirt.
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 12:27pm

How would he know it was over the top for you? It was your first date. I'm not saying everything he did was right or wrong but he wasn't getting any brake signals from you. Takes two to tango and putting all of it on him isn't fair. It would be nice to acknowledge your part in the shenanigans and chalk it up to a night of partying. Not a big deal at all. If I were him, I'd think you had a good time and would like to do it again. I don't think that makes him a bad guy.

Maybe you're thinking he brought out the worst in you and that's why he's no longer welcome. Just a thought.

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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 12:39pm

God, I am so confused.

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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 12:58pm
Not at all. Do what you feel is right for you for sure. But do own your part. Behaviour on both parts wasn't stellar. Focusing on him pulling your shirt down or whatever happened isn't fair. Perhaps you're having selective memory as often happens when remembering a drunken evening. He didn't get any brake signals. I'm just saying he's not a bad guy and you're not a bad girl. Please just chalk it up to a night of partying without analyzing poor behaviour and blaming.
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 1:58pm


go w/ how you feel. again I agree there are two sides to every story. you both were drunk and had fun.,. that is all it was. this happened to me before and by letting someone treat you this way w/out saying anythning means it is ok.. and you were both drunk..

if he were to apologize and say yeah it was the drinking and both of us getting carried away then MAYBE i'd meet him somewhere where no drinking was involved and after that date decide.

but go w/ you feeling on that fact he did not apologize as you did , he could have at least apologized for going down your shirt, that is if he remembers but again he may not be thinking about it as much as you are..

you could go either way on it but if you give him another shot i would just be very observant and stay sober..