Crazy date

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Crazy date
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Thu, 09-22-2005 - 7:59pm

I had a first meet last night and let's just say that I let loose.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 2:09pm

No Sparkle, you shouldn't go out with him if you don't want to. But yes, you have to realize that though you told him you weren't like that, your actions sang a different tune...


Nothing to beat yourself up over. Let it be a learning experience and next time, don't drink. Hell, you would never feel bad if you saw me drunk! LOL.


Remember, it's only a mistake if you don't learn from it... ;o) *hugs*

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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 2:59pm
I agree.
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 3:02pm
I do agree with fxr4me. I think what happened is you both got crazy and loose and by the manner in which he pulled down your shirt, maybe something he did while drunk just like you were making out with him and doing things that you normally don't do. I think what she is saying is that, you acted different because you got drunk, it could be he did as well because of the same thing, maybe he's not in the habit of slapping girls bums but sounds to me like you both got pretty trashed and were being quite risque anyhow, with the making out and if the sexual innuendo's were flying, I can see that happening. Maybe it's against his norm just as much as it was against yours...


Edited 9/24/2005 4:11 pm ET ET by sniffle_sally
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sat, 09-24-2005 - 6:46pm

Sparkle -

I'm with fxr, too...

"HOWEVER, he pulled my shirt down and kind of touched me. He was acting "cool" and I felt violated. Like I said if I had been sober I would have decked him" -- How would he KNOW this was over the top behavior for you if you ended up making out with him?? At what point was it made clear to him that you felt violated? Be fair, here...!!

Definitely keep us posted if you think he warrants another date --

Tracy

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Registered: 09-03-2005
In reply to: sparklepuss22
Sun, 09-25-2005 - 1:44am

In my opinion, to satisfy your curiousity, u might want to meet him again and find out what his values are really like.

I had a somewhat similar incident 3 yrs back. I was on a 2nd date with this guy i've known for 3 yrs, but we were just friends all the while. We had a bit to drink, got high but i wouldn't say we were drunk, ended up at his place, made out and nearly had sex! I stopped because i didn't want to go further.

After that, i was very confused and wondered if our behaviour was a result of alcohol, or that he was genuinely interested in me. I did like him at that time.

He didn't call me. I called him 5 days later and we met up 2 days after that. Our meetup was short, we were pretty quiet and he never mentioned anything about that nite. He then sent me home, and i finally asked him what that whole night was all about, he said he was drunk and didn't want to talk about it. He did look guilty though. I was so angry and upset that i got out of his car, slamming the door!

Some time after that i heard he had a new girlfriend, and they lasted 3 months. From my calculation, he already knew her the night we were together, but weren't steady yet.

Sorry if i'm diverting, but what i'm trying to say is, u wouldnt know his true self until u give him a chance by meeting him again, in a sober environment. If he's a bad guy, u'll know soon, but if he's not???
Good luck.




Edited 9/25/2005 6:06 am ET ET by lindsayt05
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Registered: 01-01-2004
In reply to: sparklepuss22
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 10:00pm
After thinking about this and talking to many people I have decided "what the hell...why not" and wrote to him tonight via email.
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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 8:24am

Hey Sparkle,
I was reading the thread on this and something struck me: I think it's a classic example of how men and women can see things differently.

You: OMG, I can't believe I acted that way, I can't believe I got drunk, Can't believe I made out with him, hope he doesn't think I'm really like that. Oh, yeah, and it was fun.

Him: What a blast. I'd like to see her again!

You got all uptight about what he might think and it sort of sounded like you felt guilty for enjoying yourself! For him, it was just fun -- no need to apologize, we're all adults.

Obviously something about him made you feel comfortable letting down your guard, and that's a really nice feeling, right?

I for one look forward to reading about your next date!

Sposa

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In reply to: sparklepuss22
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 1:39pm

I have a history of chosing inappropriate men except for a few.

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