CREEP ALERT

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Registered: 02-25-2006
CREEP ALERT
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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 7:59pm

I've been on Match about a month and a half. I didn't respond to questionable men. Met three. No attraction to two and no connection with the other. One "talking" relationship with a guy I liked(you all remember). No stepping up on his part. Lately have emailed preliminarily with three guys and received "hi" emails from a couple others. Ready?....

Here's the kicker weirdo story..... The last one wrote:
"seen you online and liked your profile and thought I would say Hi to you. How you been? How has match been for you, I have a few horror stories thats for sure,lol. Nothing but freaks, liars and a group of I have no friggin idea. Well if your interested in sayin Hi I will be here , if your also brave and daring you can instant message me on AOL,MSN and Yahoo, my screen name for all is...... Even if we become friends and never meet thats fine too. Well have a nice day and maybe we will talk, I know I understand that I may not be what your looking for but there is always friends, nothing ventured nothing gained,,,If your interested in what ya read then let me know I will send you a pic of me,,,I have been having problems with people viewing my profile if you do too, let me know I will send you a copy of it,,,also I am only on here for 1 more day so if interested email me direct,,,,,"

Gut said odd. No profile so I responded that there was no profile. He sent it. No pic. Forget it I thought so I did. That was two days ago. No that's not the end of it. Get this: today I got a few new emails. I clicked on one and it was a woman! Stranger still, she writes:
"Since I found my boyfriend on match.com (among other sites) I decided to join so I could warn all you ladies from this liar, woman using parasite. It so happens that I met him on Match.His screen name is..... and he lives in Danbury.
So if he contacts you, my advice.....run."

What the ..... ? Psychos abound. On what planet would this be appropriate? Stalker? Girlfriend? I am not having anything to do with either. "delete". I found this scary and beyond crazy.

I'm very careful because I have children. This last email incident has just added to my frustration and thoughts that maybe OLD isn't for me. The chemistry is never equal (usually I'm not attracted to them). Granted its only been three guys (and one not real guy) after a lot of weeding out. I've had young guys email me who I responded "you are too young for me". Next. This is likely to be the straw that broke the camel's back. I am now confused as to wether OLD is for me. Do I need to stick it out a while? Do I go off?

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: eliza2006
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 9:47pm

Only you can decide what you can handle. I'll tell you from my experience though, OLD can be rough. It's a definite numbers game and you will meet wackos along the way. It's kind of like walking through the streets of New York...

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: eliza2006
Thu, 03-16-2006 - 10:15pm

It's just one of the hazards of putting yourself out there - some weirdo freaks will respond. Doesn't take too long to get to know the various types of losers that are not worth a response. One of the big keys is that their message says nothing specifically to you based on anything in your profile, it means they didn't read it. When you get spam in your email, do you take it personally? Probably not... and that's all this is too, is 'personals' spam. Usually they send an identical letter to everyone. Treat it just the same as the spam that promises to make your pen1s b1gger!!

I'll share one with you too just for giggles, that I received today through myspace... the only thing this guy is looking for is a sucker, to scam for either sex, money, and/or a green card. You just have to recognize them, laugh, maybe share, delete and move on.

Hello beautiful,
How are you doing? I will like to beg you for being an intruder. I really don't like being a distubance. My name is xxxxx from new york. I have been hurt many times. I'm a new member of this site. While surfing this site, I saw your amazing profile and I decide to email you, perhaps I may get a nice response from you.
I've been searching for that someone, to show me the way, to take my hand and tell me that everything will be okay the way my ex did; I've been searching for that someone, and now I know it's true, I've found that special someone, I've found that someone in you, but I've never claimed I've loved you. It seems to me as if you are the person I have been searching for all my life. And it's like I want to argue that abit but my instinct keeps on telling me that you are the right person. I want you to know that love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.
Mind you I have never claimed I have loved you, but i know you are the person I'm looking for all my life...and since, in our heart, love comes unexpectedly without any doubt or hesitation; it comes in times of frustration or desperation. So when you feel it and have it, don't let it go because it's hard to find love.
Either gold or silver, I have what it takes to make some special like you happy through out your life. Why don't we give it a try and see how things work through.
I will like to stop here till i read from you. perhaps, I can be contacted via my yahoo and hotmail IM, my id is xxxxxxxx

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Registered: 01-16-2006
In reply to: eliza2006
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 8:09am

I"VE GOTTEN THAT SAME ONE!!!!!!!!!

Please. I can't believe that women would fall for something like that..Who do they think their kidding??

Totally laughable!

Lisa

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Registered: 02-25-2006
In reply to: eliza2006
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 4:31pm
Thanks all of you. I guess your right. I am impatient and very protective of my emotions. Maybe that's one of the lesons I still need to work toward really learning. I'll keep you posted and will share with others too.
E