Critical Men
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| Tue, 05-30-2006 - 11:38am |
I seem to keep meeting and/or talking with men that can't resist trying to put me down in some way before breaking-off contact. For ex., one man said that going to counselors (which I admitted I do) was like "buying friends" and he'd gotten past that. I'd been pretty level-headed about the situation with him until he made critical, or what could be interpreted as, critical comments, at least not supportive. Then, I wrote him trying to explain my position when it occurred to me that what he wanted was to be critical. Numerous times I've run into these men whose fathers were critical of them. Now, when they meet women they're looking for someone that will be critical of them or will put-up with their disagreeableness, usually alternating.
Normally, when someone started being less than affirming, I would assume they wanted to break-off contact with me but didn't have the guts to say so nor stop writing. But, no, I don't write for awhile, then they write me again. It's like the first hit wasn't enough, they have to come back for more. They don't break-off contact completely until I call them on their immature behavior, either directly or indirectly. A guy summarily dismissing a girl after sleeping with her is like the ultimate diss (sp). That's why I wonder if these guys are just not that into someone, or if they're just big, immature jerks that are incapable of a real relationship. I can get almost any guy if I play into their stupid little dramas, but who wants them? Did I mention they're annoying?

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