Critical Men

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Critical Men
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Tue, 05-30-2006 - 11:38am

I seem to keep meeting and/or talking with men that can't resist trying to put me down in some way before breaking-off contact. For ex., one man said that going to counselors (which I admitted I do) was like "buying friends" and he'd gotten past that. I'd been pretty level-headed about the situation with him until he made critical, or what could be interpreted as, critical comments, at least not supportive. Then, I wrote him trying to explain my position when it occurred to me that what he wanted was to be critical. Numerous times I've run into these men whose fathers were critical of them. Now, when they meet women they're looking for someone that will be critical of them or will put-up with their disagreeableness, usually alternating.

Normally, when someone started being less than affirming, I would assume they wanted to break-off contact with me but didn't have the guts to say so nor stop writing. But, no, I don't write for awhile, then they write me again. It's like the first hit wasn't enough, they have to come back for more. They don't break-off contact completely until I call them on their immature behavior, either directly or indirectly. A guy summarily dismissing a girl after sleeping with her is like the ultimate diss (sp). That's why I wonder if these guys are just not that into someone, or if they're just big, immature jerks that are incapable of a real relationship. I can get almost any guy if I play into their stupid little dramas, but who wants them? Did I mention they're annoying?

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 10:21am
I had the same problem (w/anxiety) and ended up going to see a doctor. He put me on an anti-depressant and I was like "I'm not depressed"! He stated this would help with my serotonin levels which apparently were the reasons for my sleepless night which increased my anxiety. It worked for me and possibly something to consider.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 06-05-2006 - 10:57am
I absolutely HATE to take medicine. I would rather not sleep. Seriously. Half the time if I'm prescribed something I don't even take it. I really hate to take meds. I do take my migraine medicine because I used to get migraines daily, and that's about the only thing I take on a daily basis but I really do NOT like to take prescriptions so I avoid the doctors at all costs if I can help it, probably not the best thing to do. I think I drink too much water too because I pee alot in the night so that doesn't help. lol

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