Curious

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Curious
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Sun, 03-12-2006 - 12:16pm
Well, I joined match.com on March 1st. I've only actually met up with one guy so far. (Totally, didn't look like his photo and personality wasn't my type either.) I don't know if I'm too picky, had higher expectations or what, but I gues I'm a little disappointed. The men that seem interested are generally not my type. I have e-mailed a few and they'll respond and then nothing. For the first several days, I didn't want to do any of the initiating, but since then I have e-mailed some. A few have responded, but only once. I know I don't usually end with, "hope to hear form you," because I don't like it to seem like I'm chasing them. Oh well, I guess I just wanted to share my intial thoughts with match.
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In reply to: momma215
Sun, 03-12-2006 - 2:53pm
Hey, sorry to hear it isn't going too well yet, give it some more time though. I was on match and met lots of guys but not the type I want which is why I am on eharmony now. I think initiating contact yourself is a good idea. Hope things improve for you!
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In reply to: momma215
Sun, 03-12-2006 - 3:51pm
Thanks for the response. I was on eharmony too. I did meet a few really nice guys, especially one. He just came on way too strong too fast. The only problem I had with eharmony was that I got a lot of people that lived very far away and the time it took to get matches, ect seemed long. I did date that one guy for some time though. He lvied 2 1/2 hours away though. Oh well. Just in a bummed mood lately.
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Registered: 02-20-2006
In reply to: momma215
Sun, 03-12-2006 - 4:08pm
I am in a weird mood lately too, not sure why. That is too bad about eharmony. I have heard that from other people too but I have been lucky, in my area there are lots of guys on it nearby. Anyway, hope match improves for ya. My memory is that match sort of goes in waves so there are slow times and times when you get more responses, so hopefully it is just that you are in a slow phase.
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In reply to: momma215
Mon, 03-13-2006 - 10:23am

So if I got you correctly, you did eHarmony before and this is your first time on Match?


Your expectations are definitely WAY too high. You've been on for less than 2 weeks and "only" had one meet in person? Dang girl, that's great, why would you complain?


OLD takes time and patience. Don't be disappointed, be positive and proactive... Go through your profile as if you were reading the profile of a stranger. Be picky. What in your profile is unattractive to your type of guy? Are your pictures good, with at least one head shot and one full shot? Are there any "jokes" in your profile that might come across as mean or snotty? Remember sarcasm doesn't always work in text, that's better saved for later in the getting-to-know-someone process. And of course if you're willing to

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In reply to: momma215
Mon, 03-13-2006 - 8:54pm
Please don't get me wrong. I'm not looking to ahve a million dates at this point and people have show interest. It just seems that most of them are not who I am interested in or they show interest and then I guess ghost. I don't know if I've been on long enough to really consider it ghosting. I am taking a bit more intiative though. You do have to ahve a thick skin though. It's just lovely when you e-mail and they don't respond. However, as I said in other posts, I'd rather they just ignore my e-mail then say "not interested loser. :) " I did get a lot of matches on eharmony if you look at the whole time I used it, about 9 months off and on, and I did meet one exceptionally nice guy, but so many were from far away. I'm told and am trying to totally believe that everything happens for a reason. So, if I'm met to meet the one I am looking for I will. If you want to chek out my profile on match, feel free. I'm lovestolaugh15. I know I mention my daughter a lot, but I don't care. If they're afraid of children, they might as well keep walking. I'm a package deal :)!
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In reply to: momma215
Mon, 03-13-2006 - 9:24pm

Don't despair, it's only been what? Two weeks? Online dating requires a few things: a. a sense of humor b. a bit of luck c. time

I understand that it can be discouraging sometimes. No doubt, there are some whacky guys out there, many who'll leave you scratching your head in wonderment... but there are some good ones out there too :) Being a female in the world of OLD seems to better the odds a bit. Hang in there and keep us posted!