Curious! heavy women preferring thin men

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Curious! heavy women preferring thin men
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 11:36pm

most my overweight friends insist on dating thin people. Since most decent people who are thin or athletic prefer to date the same. My friends always end up with thin losers!

I m talking about 50 lbs overweight and above insisting never to date someone overweight!
I see it as a big issue in their personality. If they cant stand overweight men why are they overweight themselves?!

I know there are many overweight women who dont care about their partner's weight but I m talking about those who do...

I feel so sorry for one of my friends who has a good personality, is educated and has a good job... but is a Big Woman and ends up dating thin trashy guys all the time and rejecting decent guys because they are overweight... same with her girl friends.

Can someone explain why a plus size woman would hate to date a fat guy.

I m not trying to be mean here, I m really trying to understand.

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Registered: 08-19-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 7:26am
Okay so here I go- as an overweight woman I definitely do not agree that they all end up with scummy thin men. What it sounds like is your friends just settle for who they're attracted to and overlook the treatment. As for why some overweight women don't want to date a man the same it all depends on who they are attracted to. They're all plenty of in shape men who prefer their woman with meat on their bones! Mind you, I have incredibly gorgeous girl friends who date those tall, athletic men who end up getting treated like crap. All it comes down to is choosing who you think is a decent man and who you're attracted to.
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Fri, 08-25-2006 - 8:31am

I am slightly overweight myself - I'm between "a few extra pounds" and "average" (but I put "average" in my profile because I've gotten down to a 12 and can even squeeze on a 10 in some sizes) - I put full-body shots in my profile so guys can judge for themselves.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 3:39pm

Probably the same reason why the fat guy wants a Barbie Doll on his arm! LOL I mean it's okay to have a preference; but I don't think it's right to put someone else down that shares the same problem.

I'm a thick lady and prefer my guy to be tall and stocky! I just like the built of a football type guy and since I'm a big woman, I'm not attracted to a skinny guy -- never was (even when I was smaller) and never will be. I have dated average guys but skinny ones, nah, not physically attracted to that type. I prefer a man to have some meat on his bones!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 4:14pm

Me too! I had a first meet last night with a guy who was a tiny little thing, LOL! Not so much in height as in body shape. I couldn't tell from his picture what his body type was but he was really wiry/skinny and I'm just not attracted to a man with that shape, in part because I feel too big next to him, LOL! But also because I like big, solidly built guys.

Sheri

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Fri, 08-25-2006 - 4:50pm
I have a few extra pounds on me too and I don't go for skinny guys. I prefer someone with a little meat on his bones. Even when I was really thin I never went for skinny guys.
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Registered: 07-21-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 9:49pm
A lot of thin men prefer large size women. But of all the large size women I know, not one prefers skinny men. Most of them feel more at ease and comfortable with nudity around the big guys. I am normal sized and I find thin men unattractive. A little bit of a paunch is sexy to me.