Dare to dream

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Thu, 07-28-2005 - 3:18pm

So I had a great date monday, 4 hours dinner and then closed the place, they locked us in. LOL

Early the next morning he emailed to say how much fun he had and he'd like to get together again, I responded as well. He later called me that night and asked me out for friday.

Yesterday I emailed him just to have a good day and he wrote back and said he was really looking forward to seeing me.

Its very strange, most of the men I've dated (and there has been alot from online) always wait days to call and they seem a little "aloof" if you will. This guy seems so open, and making sure I know that he's interested in ME...

As I said....dare to dream....

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:43am

"Ummm jackass how is it fair that you picked me out from my picture and I'm suppose to just go out with you with nothing. "


LOL

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:48am

LOL I can't remember exactly what I wrote, but come on really, if I didn't have a picture would he have even emailed me???? LOL

I'm just suppose to be expected to meet someone blindly without knowing what they look like first, but it's perfectly okay for him to know what I look like? LOL

You know when I first started doing online dating, not many people at all had pictures, mainly because not everyone had digital cameras or scanners, nowadays not having a picture available online, nobody has a scanner he knows? Nobody has digital pictures?? Where does he live in the mountains of West Virginia?

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:53am
I met a guy once who didn't show me a picture first.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:56am

Exactly and you know what, if I didn't have a picture up myself, then I wouldn't have an issue with meeting someone with no picture because we'd both be in the same boat. But him knowing what I look like, I think it's only fair I know what he looks like.

Then you have to wonder what is he hiding? I mean he must get asked frequently for a picture to come out with such a defensive attitude about "what is with everyone asking for a picture and he wasn't proposing". If everyone keeps asking for a picture, might clue you in to get one.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 2:40pm
I had this interesting experience with a "NO PHOTO" guy a few months back. I'd posted a personals ad on Craigslist offering my picture for theirs. Got 27 replies and weeded out all the no picture guys except one. His reply was so intriguing, funny & intelligent. So I broke my rule and wrote back (no pic though). We ended up corresponding for almost a month pretty much daily. We had so many similar interests and experiences. The funny thing was he was a photographer. His excuse was that the camera did something weird to him. So I'm thinking ok, this guys interesting, seems to not be looking for a hook-up, probably a troll, but at the very least he'd make a great friend. We finally set up a meet so I sent him my picture so we both wouldn't look like clueless idiots plus I figured if he didn't like my picture he just wouldn't show and save me the awkwardness of an embarrassing situation. All I knew was that he was tall (6'4). In walks this guy who looks like Peter Gabriel...I'm thinking could this be him? Yes! I'm like ZOWZA! (I adore Peter Gabriel). Guy turned out to be a total jerk!... contradicting my opinions, when I had the chance to express them that is. He was so full of himself and talked almost the whole 2 hours. I was outta there LOL!
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 2:49pm

LOL great story.

I have to think that this guy the way he got so defensive that probably a bunch of people have asked him for a photo and I just happen to be the unlucky soul he took his defensiveness out on.

I've met men with no photos but that was a long time ago when I didn't have a picture online too so I figured it was fair for us both to be on a "blind" date so to speak.

Also the picture thing makes me leery that they are really married and don't want their picture out there for their wife to see.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 3:20pm
I think that is the case more often than not. Not only the wife but anyone who knows him or his wife or girlfriend. Many of these guys are just trolling around outside their relationship. In this case I suspect that's it because he got so defensive when you mentioned it. Anyone who's been doing this for any length of time and are legitimately out there, know and accept that the photo is the first dealbreaker.
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 4:30pm

Oh my god.

So anyhow the guy with no picture. So he winks at me, mind you he's not a paying member so if I want to talk to him than I need to email him.

So I wrote:

So...why no picture?

He writes back:

lol not even a hello ........ummm maybe I just signed up and I am new to this ....why is everyone so hung up" on a picture,so early on........have I proposed???

So I wrote back:

I didn't know you had to propose to get a picture. Well I don't think people are hung up but its certainly nice to see who you are talking too.

he writes back:

Is a Scanner needed to download pictures??....If so, I dont have one of those, never really needed one...Is that the way you usually introduce yourself.. I have done ok so far with out a picture, but I understand your reason..

Okay mind you this guy is too cheap to pay and expects me to email him because I am a paying member big ones on this guy.

So I wrote back:

Wow why are you so defensive?? I asked a simple question why you didn't have a picture. You seem a little highstrung. How many profiles do you respond to that don't have pictures? I don't have a scanner either, you don't necessarily need one with the digital cameras and the online photo processing centers such as ofoto, snapfish etc.

Easy killer...it was just a question.

Needless to say I doubt I'll be going out with this guy too soon

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 4:56pm

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Wow! This got me thinking. You could be very right about that. Never considered that before. Good call, Sal.


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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 6:38pm

UPDATE:

My friend Wendie suggested I email him and tell him when I was leaving for vacation because he might not remember when since we really never discussed dates. So I did this morning.

So he emailed me today, he's been super busy at work and helped a friend move and didn't remember when I was leaving on vacation, he said he would very much like to see me before I left, so he called me after work, I said I would drive out to meet him but he said no he'll come to me, he sounded tired I asked him if he was okay because he sounded stressed he said it has been hell at work this week, he's been trying to go to PT and he was still balls to the wall FT this week.

Anyhow, we are having dinner and he said next time I can drive out to him. I said I was worried I wouldn't see you before I left, he said, normally I remember everything you tell me but I just happened to space on when you were leaving, and then as we were hanging up he said "I'm looking forward to seeing you".

So those in chat that said maybe he was just busy, yup that was the answer, and that he didn't remember I was leaving so quickly on vacation.

Thanks all! I guess my radar on ghosting isn't off after all....I still got it. LOL

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