Date #5 report

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Date #5 report
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Sat, 11-19-2005 - 8:26pm

Last night's date with Amazon Guy was really, really nice. I had a *crappy* day (found out my law firm is closing our office so I'll be out of my part-time job there in a few months) and when he called to firm up the plans for the evening, I mentioned what was going on...and he was all, "ok, we're going to go out and have fun to get your mind off of this, I'll take care of all the plans, etc". He made dinner reservations at my favorite restaurant and went out of his way to get Harry Potter tickets, then we went back to the restaurant for coffee and dessest...he was just really sweet, romantic and affectionate.

We had a very upfront talk about expectations, etc...he made it clear he's moving, plus being freshly divorced he isn't looking for a serious r'ship right now (which I knew of course), but I told him I'm fine with that for now and let's just have some fun while you're still here. So we did ;-). I must say, I was *very* happy with that part of things...I picked a good one, LOL. We discussed being physicially exclusive and he's fine with that but I told him I want to continue to date other people since I am ultimately looking for an LTR and he seemed fine with that too (it remains to be seen how *I* will handle it however).

He's heading out of town today for a week for T'giving but I feel reasonably confident we will continue to see each other while he's still living here and hopefully I can continue to be ok with this just being a fun fling. So far so good ;-).

Sheri

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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 7:43pm
Ooooh! CL means Craig's List in that context! LOL.

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 11:47am
I'm confused is this the guy that you weren't really sure if you were into last week?
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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 12:14pm

I'm having trouble keeping up, too, and it's my life, LOL ;-). I know this "problem" of too many men won't last long but it sure makes life interesting while it lasts. I had 4 dates last week so it could be any of them. But in any event, I was a little uncertain of this guy's (Amazon Guy's) interest level after our 4th date the week before last, but he redeemed himself in his phone call early last week and then in his actions Friday.

Part of the problem is, as I've previously posted, since I'm doing something that's outside my normal guidelines (a fling), I'm not sure how he's *supposed* to act, ya know? So I'm a little at sea. But I really liked the fact that even though this is just casual, he came through for me in a big way on Friday.

Sheri

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 1:01pm

LOL

yeah I think last I read you were going for coffee or something like that but then you guys had to cancel and then reschedule and then when you went out you didn't know if he was that interested, maybe I missed the follow up phone call thing. YOu are right it's hard to keep up, as long as you know his name when you are with him it's good. LOL

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 1:15pm

Personally I am very surprised you are having a fling with this guy.

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 1:37pm

Yep, it is totally outside my usual comfort zone...but as I've previously posted, for a variety of reasons, it feels ok to me at this moment. I'm trying to keep a close eye on my emotions and if anything starts to feel NOT ok, I hope I will have the presence of mind to back off.

But yes, for the moment, I *am* enjoying ;-)!

Sheri

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 2:01pm

While you're being searching for Mr. Right; nothing wrong with enjoying "Mr Right Now", wink!!! No rules - just enjoy - that simple.

SP

 
 
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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 2:38pm

What Peanut said!!

Enjoy!!

Libra

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 3:28pm

Sheri,

Hoping all goes well with your fling. I, too, have entered into a fling. I've never really had one before, so I'm having a bit of difficulty with it right now. However, I made the decision to do it, so I'm living (and learning) with the consequences.

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Mon, 11-21-2005 - 3:36pm
That’s interesting; I had the opportunity for one but the problem was I really liked him and it would never be more and for me I couldn’t go there, oh well. I���m just in a different zone right now; all or nothing. I haven’t had a bf since May – I’m holding out and it’s not easy, ha!