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| Sat, 11-19-2005 - 8:26pm |
Last night's date with Amazon Guy was really, really nice. I had a *crappy* day (found out my law firm is closing our office so I'll be out of my part-time job there in a few months) and when he called to firm up the plans for the evening, I mentioned what was going on...and he was all, "ok, we're going to go out and have fun to get your mind off of this, I'll take care of all the plans, etc". He made dinner reservations at my favorite restaurant and went out of his way to get Harry Potter tickets, then we went back to the restaurant for coffee and dessest...he was just really sweet, romantic and affectionate.
We had a very upfront talk about expectations, etc...he made it clear he's moving, plus being freshly divorced he isn't looking for a serious r'ship right now (which I knew of course), but I told him I'm fine with that for now and let's just have some fun while you're still here. So we did ;-). I must say, I was *very* happy with that part of things...I picked a good one, LOL. We discussed being physicially exclusive and he's fine with that but I told him I want to continue to date other people since I am ultimately looking for an LTR and he seemed fine with that too (it remains to be seen how *I* will handle it however).
He's heading out of town today for a week for T'giving but I feel reasonably confident we will continue to see each other while he's still living here and hopefully I can continue to be ok with this just being a fun fling. So far so good ;-).
Sheri

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Sheri (and other ivillage girlfriends!) --
I haven't been posting about my latest experience here because it's not an OLD thing -- I have told the story on the May-December board, but I have some similar concerns about it. I re-met a guy who once did yard work for me and my husband and have started seeing him but he's a LOT younger than me. I'm 48 and he'll be thirty ... in a couple of years....
Which is why I have such trepidation about it. Sheri, what do we do if we really fall for these guys? Even if we KNOW at the outset that the longterm potential is not there, at what point do we cut bait? For you, though he's leaving town, it sound like it'll be a few months, anyway -- is that long enough to hook you in? Just hearing about the date where he took care of you on that bad day made me swoon. Will we be in the position that we break it off BECAUSE it's going well? For you, it's the relocation ... for me, I'm thinking (and though I barely know him yet, because we're who we are, we feel compelled to look at the big picture) that at some point he's going to realize he wants to get married and have kids, and the baby ship has definitely left the dock for me ...
You know, I say this every single day. Timing is everything.
Sposa
Hey there, I don't think I could do what you're doing. I had the opportunity to start a relationship with a guy I *really* liked almost 2 years ago (not long before I met the LD guy) but he was freshly divorced and didn't really want a LTR or to get married again, plus he had an on again, off again gf he'd dated while he was separated and he wasn't sure what was going to happen with that (they since decided to get back together). So even though I really liked him a lot (and still do, we have become good friends), I chose not to get into a romantic relationship with him. I'm glad I made the decision that I did, because it would have been really hard to become friends had we gotten involved, and he's a really good friend to me.
Anyway, a large part of the reason I decided to have a fling with this guy is because he's leaving (and that could happen as soon as the next few weeks), and because he has his son every other weekend so the time we can spend together is necessarily limited. Even him being away this week is good, because I'm focusing on the other people I'm meeting and dating, rather than dwelling on how great Friday was ;-). I couldn't spend a whole bunch of time with him and know it was going to end at *some* point (and that I'd either have to end it or be hurt by him ending it) like you are doing. I hope it works out ok for you...you are very brave.
Sheri
Back when I was in my late 20s I decided I didn't want a steady boyfriend. I was going out a lot so I managed to actually juggle 7 guys simultaneously. I ate at some of the best restaurants, received some very wonderful lingerie and had a blast. Eventually I got bored and when I moved into my present house I knew the neighbors weren't going to be exactly understanding of my revolving door lovelife so I had to put a stop to it all.
It was a hoot while it lasted though.
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