date #5: time running out?

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date #5: time running out?
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:09am

I posted this in Dating Doyenne and no one has responded, thought I'd try here:

I could use your thoughts on this one.

I've dated this man 4 times and have to say that each time we've gone out I've realized that I like him a bit more. Conversations is good, he's a gentleman (just a couple of sweet kisses), seems fairly normal.

Our first 3 dates were between Thanksgiving and Christmas and then due to a death in my family I didn't feel up to dating again until a few weeks ago. So this past weekend we had a great time on date #4 and he did ask (as he usually does) if he can see me again next week. I said yes.

The thing is that he hasn't called yet and its Wed night. Not that I'm a rules girl or anything, but I like to make plans for my weekends.

Thanks!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:18am

Unless you had a firm date for a particular night, I would let it be and let him call you (or not--I don't mean to be alarmist, but it's possible he changed his mind about getting together again). If you did tentatively arrange to see each other, say, Friday night, then I'd call and ask if you're still on.

If it's the first, I'd go ahead and make plans for the weekend as you normally would, and and if he calls you and asks you out for a particular night, I'd accept a date if you don't have plans for that night, and decline if you do! If you need to decline, let him know you already have plans that night, but X night or Y night would work (so he knows you're not just blowing him off).

Sheri

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Thu, 02-24-2005 - 11:25am

I'd let him call you; because there was so much time in-between your dates there is a possibility he may be dating someone else too or did like you but didn't feel the same connection as before. It's been my personal experience that if a guy is really into you he'll make a date be it date one, two, three, four or five. Anything under 6 date - anything can happen so don't assume because you had a few good ones that you've got the guy....

I'm sure you've gone out with someone two or three times and then realized they weren't for you, it happens, nothing personal. For guys it’s easier to avoid confrontation.

He did ask you out for the "week" not weekend and if he really wanted a week date he would have asked you on the spot what days look good for you and can I call you tomorrow to confirm to make sure it's clear?

Good luck either way; it's tough out there I know. Nothing worse in my book then having a handful of dates and the guy disappears, I had that happen to me last summer and it's no fun.

SP

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