Date with Pretty Boy.....

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Date with Pretty Boy.....
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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 11:48am

Hi there- I posted yesterday about insecurities that I felt after meeting this extrememly attractive man via match, and going out on a first real "date." We went out for dinner last night- and it turned out to be one of the most interesting dates I've ever been on! I'm not quite sure what to make of it. I mean, when he came to pick me up, this guy was dressed very nicely (jeans, nice shirt, funky sports coat), and handed me a daisy. We then started walking around my yard checking out all the very cool landscaping (I've got three Japanese Maples that are way overgrown). At one point, he parts the branches of one of the maples, climbs under the tree and sits on the ground, invites me under. Um... ok. So under I go and we sat there total covered by maple branches kind of hidden. My cat shows up and the pretty boy makes friends with the cat instantly.

We climbed out from under the maple and went out for dinner. He suggested this place I never in 100 years would have thought of going- it was the restuarant in a local hotel that has a lot of conferences. He wanted to go there because 1) its quietish and you can talk, and 2) they've got outside seating on a river. Ok. So we go, and sure enough, there's a car windsheild sales conf. going on. Lots of loud sales guys everywhere. We sat outside, and he was right- nice place to have a conversation. Talked of art, film, religion, backgrounds, all the usual first date stuff. This guy is a filmmaker, so that was interesting. I felt like I had to keep focusing the conversation b/c he'd totally get off on tangents. Not that that's bad, but I was interested in what the conversation was. Anyway, got home around midnight, and he announces he doesn't think he'll come in (um, I didn't ask him to!), gives me a hug, says lets watch a movie soon, and off into the night he goes.

So I got over the insecurity thing- he was just a very interesting, eccentric, beautiful man with whom I got to share a nice time. Now I just want to spend time with him because he's got a lot to share, and the pretty face prob. won't get in the way. =0)

I wonder if its *hard* to date when you are that good looking? Seriously, it must be tough to get past that.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Wed, 06-07-2006 - 7:16pm

I didn't read your other post, but doesn't the whole assumption of an invitation in bother you? I don't think it's all that hard to date when you're pretty... I think it's hard to be down to earth and realize the world doesn't revolve around you (which it sounds a little like this guy thinks that).


What's your gut saying?

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 12:58pm

You know, you're right. I guess now, two days after the date, my gut is telling me that this person is a little self-centered. And while i find him pretty fascinating and fun to hang out with, ultimately, in a partner, I'm looking for someone who is considerate of me, able to see things from both partners' POV, and down to earth. His assumption that I *wanted* him to come in at midnight on a "school night" was odd.

Thanks for asking me that question- it really made me think. =0)

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 9:19pm

You're very welcome! And I'm glad it came across the right way... :o)