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| Sun, 11-06-2005 - 12:57pm |
It was really nice. We went to see "Good Night and Good Luck" (very good, btw) and then out to dinner. No hand-holding during the movie (bummer ;-)!) but we did kiss a little at the end of the date and it was very nice (he's a good kisser!).
We're going out again Wednesday night.
I'm really torn because so far he seems like a great guy and I enjoy spending time with him, but he's moving, and he's freshly divorced so he's not really looking for anything serious right now. So normally I would stop seeing him because we want different things but for whatever reason, I'm thinking that a temporary fling with him wouldn't be a bad thing. For one thing, it has an end date when he moves, so I wouldn't have to "be strong" and end it because it's not going anywhere...it would just end naturally. And for another, I'm just feeling like I need a fun, "transitional" relationship to get the cobwebs out of my head from my last r'ship (the LDR). But then of course there are all the usual reasons not to do it, first and foremost being the fact that I tend to get attached, and therefore even if I go into it knowing it doesn't have a future, I'm still likely to get hurt.
My friends here are all urging me to go for it, which is interesting, given that they know me well and know my tendancies. They think that shaking things up is a good idea.
Sheri

I'm in agreement with your friends... Live a little. It's short-lived, he seems nice and you like him. Throw the rules out for once and take the risk! Sure, you may end up getting hurt but at least you don't have to live with regret which in my mind, is worse.
I say; better to have loved and lost.. It might be just a brief romantic courtship and not the long lasting relationship you're looking for, but you're bound to be richer for the experience. Yeah, you might be sad when he leaves, but that's life - you'll get over it.
I agree with your friends, go for it!
Coolas
I'm glad it went so well.....I wish I had advice to give but truth be told I'd be just as torn about it as you are.
Although torn you confess....you do keep making dates with him ;) I guess you've already made the decision.
Yes, that I do ;-). But that's just a decision to keep dating him...I haven't made a decision about having a fling with him yet.
Sheri
As long as you aren't telling yourself maybe he'll change his mind and not move, and you stay realistic about the real situation, then I say go for it.
I agree with your friends also. I think we all tend to focus too much on each guy as being a potential future Mr. Right instead of living in the moment now. Life is really short and if this guy treats you well, you have fun and he kisses good - hey, go for it. If and when it ends it does -- you'll deal with it then and you never know anyhow, funnier things have happened. Plus you can still date others; nice scenario!!! Hey, if you want great sex, why wait two months, he's not a boyfriend prospect - we women have needs, ha!
SP
Thanks for all the input...we shall see. I haven't decided what to do yet, beyond going on the next date and enjoying some good food and conversation ;-). I'll see how I feel as (and if) it progresses further.
And I do have a coffee date (first meet) with another guy tentatively set up for this Saturday, so that's cool.
Sheri