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| Mon, 10-23-2006 - 11:47am |
well I had the date with the guy who i'm his first online date. Of course I really have no clue what will happen next. I was happy with his appearance AND personality, which is RARE with online dating for me. So that was cool. We had some food, a drink, talked. He seemed very talkative over email, but not as much in person. i expected him to be sort of loud and out goign in person since his emails to me were so long and he wrote me everyday from when he first contacted me. He mentioned again that he has only been doing online dating a week, has not gone public with his profile basically because he's afraid of people he knows seeing him on there. So he was the one to end the date basically after about an hour and a half. Is that a big deal? I mean i know it's sunday night, people have things to do, i certainly didnt expect to be out all night. He asked what i was doing tonight (last night), i said nothing really, what are you doing? he said he was going to watch football at 8:30 or so. So i feel sort of like i got blown off for football? Should i have expected him to stay out later with me? So when we left he hugged me, and said he would be in touch over email or the phone. He did comment during the date that i looked good in my pics, even better in person. i figure he didnt have to say this...i dunno...i would have thought he'd have sent an email today...but he didnt.

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Well, in that case, it's possible that it all goes back to an underlying self-esteem issue that I think I and others have mentioned to you before. There's absolutely no reason to assume they are "clearly" looking for someone "better", unless you don't think you're good enough. If I were in your shoes (and I have been, more times than I care to count ;-)), I'd be thinking they are looking for someone "different", not "better".
I mean, take the guy I've been seeing recently that I'm not sure about. I don't think he's "not good enough" for me, I just think he's probably not *right* for me. I'm not making any judgments about his instrinsic worth as a person...I'm just determining if we are a good fit for each other, or not.
You will be MORE than "good enough" for someone who is right for you...and you will increase the chances of that happening, IMO, by working on your internal beliefs that you are indeed "good enough".
Sheri
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