Dating Article of the Week

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Dating Article of the Week
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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 3:06pm

OK, in an effort to start some new things on the board to make it more interesting, I am going to find a new "Dating Article of the Week" so everyone can post their thoughts.

heather 5-18-10
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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 4:17pm

My thoughts...

Do what feels right for you unless you keep getting the same results over and over and it's driving you batty :-)

When I don't give the guy a subtle hint i.e. nice eyes, smile or wow, you look much better in person or wow, glad you actually look like your photo what a relief as opposed to saying nothing I always get "I couldn't tell if you were interested" so I've come to the conclusion with me and even when I'm laughing & being playful somehow I still give off to the guy that "unsure vibe" so I have to make myself say something like "love to do it again" otherwise they get confused. Happened last week...we got a long and had a blast on our date, laughed the whole time and he wrote me and i wrote him back and he asked if I was interested in another date and I said yes. So that is what works for me. I didn't compliment the guy so I need to show some HINT that hey, were going out again if you ask!

There are no rules when it comes to dating. As a rule, sure you can apply the not revealing too much too soon so that you don't get hurt if things don't work out and that means keeping your life and not putting all eggs in one basket. Sure some people meet, do the deed on day one and live happily ever after but that is the exception not the rule. It's wise in my opinion to treat it like a temporary to hire job position. Check it out, don't get overly excited and make sure it's a good fit for you and your employer or prospective new boyfriend!!!

SP

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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 5:16pm

Life is short. I am 53, been divorced for 6 yrs after a 19 yr marriage. I don't have the patience for "games." I'm upfront, straightforward, direct, and honest in all my interactions with people. I am not ME if I'm anything else. If the woman plays hard to get then I move on. I believe in relationships are self-selecting, i.e. if it does not work out or if one party is not interested then it is not meant to be.

Mark

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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 6:31pm

I saw this posted on another board this morning--I don't like the article at all. I think it's *extremely* fun, personally, for people to return my phone calls and emails promptly ;-), for instance!

And as someone noted on this other board, #4 doesn't really make sense--that's not *not* being yourself, it's just common sense...isn't it?

I don't know, the whole tone of it just bugged me!

Sheri

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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 7:26pm
I approach dating pretty much the same way I do everyone else. I try to treat people the way I'd like to be treated. I learned not too long back, however, that someone else may not like the same things I do, so I try to take that into consideration. My main objective is to keep my self-respect intact. Beyond that, I give a guy positive feedback because that's what I would like, to have some idea of where I stand. For ex., a guy wrote his older kids are at his house a lot on the weekends. I wrote back that I thought that was neat, must be a good dad. If that's not hard to get enough for him, or whatever, too bad. I'd rather be myself.
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Mon, 07-17-2006 - 8:29pm

Yeah, me too (the whole do unto others thing). That's why I'm not going to arbitrarily not call a guy back right away, because I would hate it if he did the same thing to me. Now, if I'm busy, I might not have time to call him back right away, but that's different.

Sheri