Dating Article of the Week 7/24

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Dating Article of the Week 7/24
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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:02am

OK, what do you think of this one that states that successful, smart women have a harder time finding dates because they could be intimidating.

heather 5-18-10

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Sun, 07-30-2006 - 8:21pm

Emily, take it from one who has been there. You DON'T want to date "down"

What kind of planes do you fly? That's something I always wanted to do. A man I was madly in love with ten years ago flies his own private plane.

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Registered: 03-05-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 1:03pm

Well, I confess I don't want to date 'down' either. And I do have a pretty flexible notion of what 'success' means. Are you happy doing what you do? Did you choose it? Or is it just a job? I don't care about the money, only about how your work impacts your sense of self.

I did get a few matches from chemistry that were a little shocking; street maintenance? But not so much because of the job title but what they wrote in their profile. I can overlook typos and spelling but a guy with really lousy grammar is not going to enjoy conversing with me. I felt guilty about being snobby for about two seconds. On the flip side of that, I would hate to think of someone dating me because of the neighborhood where I live, etc.

I'm a school librarian, which is actually good and neutral. I'll never make a lot of money, although I have a masters degree. There are many different perceptions of what 'teachers' do and are capable of. But I think I would gravitate towards someone who understood that I view myself as a professional.

My STBX has always been intimidated by those he views as more successful. He HAS an MBA, but is very shy with men who are doctors/lawyers/engineers---anyone he percieves as being smarter than he is. And he actively thwarted my attempts to get a Master's degree. So I think a man's notion of success is generally different from a woman's.

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