Dating a dad
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Dating a dad
| Thu, 11-24-2005 - 1:50pm |
I just met a great guy through myspace. He is taller than me and he just recently came to the United States from another country. He really is a great guy. The problem or dilemma is that he left behind two young daughters. I feel a bit awkward that he is working hard to make money to send to his daughters, but yet he is spending some of his hard earned money on me. I believe he should put his daughters first. We are still talking as friends, but I have a feeling that soon he will want to move to the next level with me. I am not sure what to do.
I know that not all situations are the same. I have a family member who married a man who already had children except that they were not in another country. They are about to celebrate 31 years of marriage.
I eventually want marriage, but would it be right with him?
Opinions Please!!
I know that not all situations are the same. I have a family member who married a man who already had children except that they were not in another country. They are about to celebrate 31 years of marriage.
I eventually want marriage, but would it be right with him?
Opinions Please!!

What is his plans for his daughters?
For now we are just friends, but there are so many questions I have about his family and about whether or not he will ever bring his daughters to live with him.
I used to think that I would never date a guy who already has children and then I met this guy. He didn't tell me about his daughters until our first date. It was a surprise, but I know a few families who have been through the same situation and have been together for many years.
I guess I am a little nervous about what may happen in the future.
What is "only a civil ceremony"???? You are either married or you aren't, the actual wedding doesn't matter. Where is the wife? What is she doing? Divorced, where are the divorce papers?
Is he planning on returning to his country or is he planning on setting down roots in your country.
If all this took place outside your country you can't confirm or deny anything his says. Tread very carefully here. I'd hate to see you get hurt or waste your valuable time.
>He didn't tell me about his daughters until
>our first date. It was a surprise
This man is slick! I wonder how many other “surprises” he has for you.
I hate to say it, but I agree with Rayny that he is probably still married and making money to either send home or to get them over here. That was my first thought when I read the original post. Be very careful.... Even if he says they are divorced, how will you really know?
Sunshine
Okay, I cannot say this loud enough RUN RUN RUN!!!! and don't ever look back.
I now have an x-husband and 2 children who will never have a real dad in their lives from a situation that started out similar to what you are describing. He didn't tell me about the other family at first, bits and pieces came out slowly....He said he had a 'fiance' but his father didn't approve of her (sound familiar?) Long story short, I married him and had 2 kids only to find out that all this money he was sending home was to support a wife (and 3 kids) who he had no intention of divorcing, and was trying to bring her here with him. It is very common for men to come here and work to support families back home, my guess is your guy is married.
There's so much more to my story which isn't really important. But I'd say if I had listened to my gut in the beginning I wouldn't be in the situation I am in now. There are enough questions with your guy that I'd just stear clear if I were you.