Dating Email Etiquette?

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Dating Email Etiquette?
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Sat, 07-09-2005 - 10:03am

Okay so I had some hotties wink at me in the last few days which kind of forced my hand to pay for the service, it's not too bad price, 50 bucks for 3 months, I dont' have to sign up again until October.

So anyhow, this one guy from CA (I live in MA) who is 55 winked at me. I didn't know what to do. I mean he's only 3 years younger than my dad. So I emailed him back and told him while it was very flattering that he was about my dad's age and that I just wouldn't feel comfortable corresponding with him and good luck on the search. Do you think that is rude? Or do you think I should delete it, I mean I hate to just delete someone that took the time to let me know they were interested.

What would you have done?

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 10:19am

You're going to get two answers from this board. One camp believes "Thanks, but no thanks" emails are the polite thing to send. Others believe they are rude.

I personally am for them and have sent them. About 6 months ago, I had someone close to my dad's age send me an email. I responded by thanking them for their email, but that I was looking for someone closer to my own age and wished them luck in their search. He responded by thanking me for actually acknowledging his email and to keep him in mind if I had any friends that would be interested in men his age.

I think it's irrelevant why a man substantially older than you, who lives across the country would wink at you. You sending a "thanks but no thanks" email doesn't really have anything to do with him, but about you. If you believe it is the polite thing to send the "No, thanks email" then send it. Don't let OLD change the way you would normally treat people.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 10:31am

Thank you!!

I just didn't feel right about just ignoring someone.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 12:00pm

Just be prepared for possible nasty emails in response. Some people don't take even nice rejection well! Or, you may get an email arguing with you ("oh I'm really young looking/ young at heart"). So, if you are going to respond, blocking them after sending the response is a good idea.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 12:33pm
I don't know if this site allows blocking but I can delete. THanks for the heads up, I'll be prepared for the backlash. LOL


Edited 7/9/2005 12:34 pm ET ET by sniffle_sally