dating frustrations

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Registered: 02-02-2005
dating frustrations
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Mon, 10-23-2006 - 3:31pm

so i should be happy about my meeting people situation lately. Had a date friday night, last night and one tomorrow. The friday night date was not cool though, he seemed weird, the date from last night didnt seem very interested in me and the date for tomorrow...well we'll find out

One thing that is frustrating is that i've had a few guys contact me, i write back, then i dont hear from them again. One guy in particular. I noticed his profile and thought he looked really cute, he was holding a dog and i love animals. Well one day he contacts me and i thought, great. We exchanged a few emails back and forth, the ones he wrote were pretty long. I wrote back to him friday and have no heard a word. He's been online too. I dont get that...yes yes he could be talking to other people or found 'the one,' but i kind of doubt it. If he'd been close to finding the one i doubt that he would be writing me the way he was. it just makes me wonder, what makes them do all this writing back and forth then not want to meet up? This happened with one guy that contacted me i suppose...he contacted me first though, i didnt contact him. After a few emails i felt like, eh, i really didnt feel much. Maybe this guy that did it to me is feeling the same, but liek i said, he initiated contact with me first...who knows. All i do know is that it's frustrating.

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 10-23-2006 - 5:02pm

Corbeach I know exactly how you feel. For the past month, this guy and I were IMing and went out on 2 dates and things seemed to really go well. He even said things while we were together that made it obvious to me that he wanted to try a relationship with me. Well, it's been a week and a half since I've heard from him. He said he was taking some down time and that it wasn't a reflection of me at all. I don't know if he just lost interest which I doubt it, or if he is trying to back off BECAUSE we have had such a good time. I don't know.

Then another guy that I have emailed has emailed me but there just doesn't seem to be much there. THEN I had this other guy email me and his profile was really nice AND he has a son. He told me to ask him any questions, etc., etc....so I asked about what he usually does with his son when he has him and then asked if there was anything else I needed to know about him. Well it seemed like he got a little ticked that I asked because he wrote back about his son and THEN said that normally when he tells a person to ask him any questions, he gets the same answer like mine and he said that he has put everything in his profile. I politely wrote back and told him that usually, when people write their profile, they don't put EVERYTHING in there because if they did, the only thing left to do would be to meet. I mean give me a break. Maybe I took him the wrong way but it just set a fire under me. lol Oh well.

I don't know how much longer I can take being online. I think my Match subscription runs out next month. Don't know if I will renew.....

Jennifer

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Registered: 06-02-2006
Mon, 10-23-2006 - 7:16pm

I have found OLD to be a crap shoot... I am a professor at a small four year institution in Mississippi... the small city leaves a great deal to be desired from the standpoint of what I would call "datable" women... but OLD has left me greatly disappointed... I think I had a decent profile... I would look at and respond to profiles that sounded a great deal like me, or someone with whom I felt I would have a great deal in common, and get very few replies to my mails...

I met a woman from Chemistry.Com back during the summer, and it was great guns for about eight weeks.. everything was really fun until she decided I was "too nice." I am not sure what that is "code" for... nor does it really matter.

However, it is frustrating.

Jim

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 10:25pm

I have to agree with all of you. I have ran the whole circle of the OLD sites. I feel that I have a good profile and try to be up front and honest about what kind of person that I am and what I am looking for. I get some responses but they are usually from people that well let's just say I really don't want to respond to (I mean come on I do have a requirement that they take a bath and have teeth!) LOL

I have a really hot good looking man that I have been talking to since last December. I finally got to meet him in August. We met, went out dancing and had a great time. I thought that surely he would call me, but he hasn't. I call him about once every couple of weeks and he acts like he is really glad to hear from me, we have great conversation. When he and I are online we IM but it seems that I always have to start the conversation. I can't figure it out.

I have had a few other men that I have met online as well, but it seems they are really interested and want to meet you, only to find out what they really want is a booty call. When they get that, they aren't as willing to stay in touch. Sometimes I think that all men are just out for one thing. Don't get me wrong, I know there are still some good ones out there but why can't I find them!!!!!!

Can someone out there give me some advice on this online dating thing!