Dating question: Sexual History

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Dating question: Sexual History
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Mon, 08-29-2005 - 7:34am
OK, we had the discussion re financial stability... now what do you all think of prospective dates and their sexual history... I am a nurse who took care of one of the "first" AIDS patients in the Boston area in the early 80s... so now Im back on the dating scene... how do you figure out sooner rather than later if your date has a promiscuous past sexual history... as you know, short of AIDS, there are a lot of other nasty bugs out there including herpes, HPV, hepatitis, etc etc
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Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 08-29-2005 - 9:50am

Ask questions and hopefully they are truthful.

Nowadays, it is wise for both parties to be tested together before a sexual relationship. In the interim, use condoms.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Mon, 08-29-2005 - 9:51pm
what kind of questions do you ask? I guess sometimes I wonder if the guy thinks I am prying... I usually start with a general question like so how long have you been doing this, how many people have you met, have many turned into sexual affairs...
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Registered: 07-12-2005
Mon, 08-29-2005 - 10:42pm
Oh isn't this topic hilarious! Well it isn't all that funny, but how do we get them to share the roster? I used to just ask guys flat out. Thought nothing of it, until someone pointed out that it wasn't dinner conversation. Something about the numbers makes a man sweat. It is like he is being held accountable for all his dirty little deeds. Then again, I usually want to know this information, but don't want to dish it myself. I have been dating a guy for a month this weekend. We met OLD and I want to know a little about his relationship past, not just the roster, but all the dirt. I try to be patient, wait for him to offer this info. But I think the cows may actually make it home first. I mean, really we talk about everything else, why not this? Because he is a man, and some how this topic is as uncomfortable for them as a swift kick in the family jewels. So I am very interested in how ya'll find this information out. Without being nosey, prying or interviewing.
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 08-29-2005 - 11:10pm

Hey ya'll...just so you are aware...Condoms do not prevent herpes. Normal STD tests do not include testing for Herpes. Also, a person can have herpes and infect another without any visible signs or symptoms.

Asking questions before is great, if they KNOW what they have.