Dating story(girls lie about height too)

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Dating story(girls lie about height too)
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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 3:24pm

I wanted to share a story about a date I had last night. It was from OLD, and it was the fastest date I have ever had between start of communication and actual meeting.

I had an email in my Match inbox Friday night from a girl here in town. I sent a wink back immediately (I am not a paying member) and she must have gotten the hint, so she responded with her regular email address in the next message. We wrote several back and forth and I asked her out for last night. She said ok, and I was proud of myself for not letting the communication go on forever.

So we meet at a nice Italian restaurant. (I know, supposed to keep it short on a first date, but I am bad about that). Anyway, it was actually a really good first date as far as chemistry. The conversation was easy and we did have a lot of common interests. After eating, we sat and talked for another hour before finally getting up to leave. Physically, I found her very attractive. She has really beautiful eyes.

So what's the problem, you ask? Well, I was a little distressed to find out that she lied about her height, and not in the direction you're probably thinking. She was *taller* than me by a little bit, and I'm 6'4". She has to be at least 6'5". Her profile says she's 6'0". (She wasn't wearing heels, BTW).

Now, I don't have a problem with her being taller. I'm certainly not used to the girl being taller than me, but it really didn't bother me. I guess I'm just worried that it's going to bother *her*. I just know in general women like the man to be taller than themselves. However, she had to know she was going to be taller before the date, unless I had made myself *shorter* on my profile.

I called her today and told her that I had a good time last night, and she said the same. We have a date planned tentatively for the middle of this coming week. So, I'm excited to have a prospect, at least. :-)

Eric

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Registered: 05-27-2005
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 3:53pm
Good for you Eric. I hope this works out for you.
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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 4:47pm

That's great!

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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 4:58pm

That's great news Eric! Here's hoping the second date goes equally as well.

As for her height, I'm sure she's learned to accept the fact that she is taller than most men and when she finds out that you're not uncomfortable with it, she will know what we already know...You're a great guy!

All the best,
Libra

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 6:18pm

ERic-

Tall being the issue? that is the least of your worries I see. She is most likely taller than most men if you think she is 6'5 that is way tall for a woman.. Man !!! I bet you anything she wrote to you for the mere fact you are quite tall yourself and then YOU would not feel so intimidated by her height. I am sure most men would that were shorter than 6 Foot.

I think your concern is to get to know her insides and see she has the same values as you.. don't worry about the ht thing, I actually think it is a positive thing and she winked at YOU!

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 7:17pm

That's great news, Eric, I'm thrilled to hear about your prospect. Keep us posted!
Height is a weird thing. A female friend of mine is 5'7" and she kept telling me I must be at least 5'6",not the 5'5" I had always assumed I was. So I measured and I'm actually 5'4 and 1/2 if you want to get technical!

And CGUN's post confirmed something I've always believed -- while many men do indeed lie about their height, I do think some have managed to convince themselves (maybe thru years of repetition :) that they're a certain height, and by God, no one can convince them otherwise.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 7:37pm

CGUN has a good point... for years I thought I was 5'7"/5'8" because I was told that by my mother. Well last year I came to find out I'm really 5'9".


Why don't you ask her? I'd be curious to see what her answer was... And you know you have to post it here! :)


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Registered: 08-27-2004
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 7:49pm

Eric,
I'm happy to hear about your date last night. It's good to hear that you had a positive outcome, and a second date to boot....yay! :) With regards to her height, if it doesn't bother you, I wouldn't mention anything to her. Besides, her height is secondary to the person she is inside. Have fun on your next date.

Holly

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:23am

Hi Eric,

I think that's great about the new lady, how exciting for you!

I have a cousin who is 6'3" who last year married a girl who is 6'5". Her height being a little taller than himself doesn't bother him one bit. They met in college athletics, went to different colleges but were attracted to eachother right away. I am only 5'1" so they tower over me even in my 3.5" heels! I can only imagine how tall their children will be! But they are so happy together and just fit eachother so well.

So I thought of them immediately when you posted about your meet with the tall lady. I wish I had a little of that height! Nah, I do just fine as I am! ;)

Have a great time on your next date and keep us posted!

Sunshine

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 10:01pm

Wow, women are sure getting taller! At 5'11-1/2" I was always the tallest girl around when I was in my teens and even twenties. Even now, if I see a woman taller than myself, I look to see if she is wearing heels...or maybe basketball shoes (indicating that she's a basketball player). And, this is probably a result of too much TV, if I see an extremely tall woman, I also tend to wonder if she is a transexual!

Anyhow, the real question about dating her is whether you mind the stares. Because two such tall people WILL be noticed, you know.

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:14am

Hello Eric (one of my fav posters),


I am excited to hear about your date.

CL-Truewild1969

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