Dating story(girls lie about height too)

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Dating story(girls lie about height too)
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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 3:24pm

I wanted to share a story about a date I had last night. It was from OLD, and it was the fastest date I have ever had between start of communication and actual meeting.

I had an email in my Match inbox Friday night from a girl here in town. I sent a wink back immediately (I am not a paying member) and she must have gotten the hint, so she responded with her regular email address in the next message. We wrote several back and forth and I asked her out for last night. She said ok, and I was proud of myself for not letting the communication go on forever.

So we meet at a nice Italian restaurant. (I know, supposed to keep it short on a first date, but I am bad about that). Anyway, it was actually a really good first date as far as chemistry. The conversation was easy and we did have a lot of common interests. After eating, we sat and talked for another hour before finally getting up to leave. Physically, I found her very attractive. She has really beautiful eyes.

So what's the problem, you ask? Well, I was a little distressed to find out that she lied about her height, and not in the direction you're probably thinking. She was *taller* than me by a little bit, and I'm 6'4". She has to be at least 6'5". Her profile says she's 6'0". (She wasn't wearing heels, BTW).

Now, I don't have a problem with her being taller. I'm certainly not used to the girl being taller than me, but it really didn't bother me. I guess I'm just worried that it's going to bother *her*. I just know in general women like the man to be taller than themselves. However, she had to know she was going to be taller before the date, unless I had made myself *shorter* on my profile.

I called her today and told her that I had a good time last night, and she said the same. We have a date planned tentatively for the middle of this coming week. So, I'm excited to have a prospect, at least. :-)

Eric

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 3:03am

Eric, I'm confused...she lied in her profile, but you're going out with her again? Isn't that asking for trouble? I understand you don't have a problem with her being taller than you, but don't you have a problem with her being dishonest?

Sheri

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 8:42am
I think that quite a few people really don't know how tall they are. I'm 5'2" and would you believe that some people have actually guessed my height as 5'7"?
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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 9:11am

Sheri,

Well, I have to say that I did consider that as soon as I saw her and realized the height discrepancy. My first impression was to think she was being dishonest, but after reading a lot of the posts on this thread, I really do think it's possible she didn't know her true height.

Even if she *was* dishonest on her profile, which is an obvious red flag, I still am willing to see how things go on another date. To me it's like a woman dating a guy who says he's 5'11" and then she finds out he's really 5'8", but he seems to be a great catch.

I hope I'm not making a mistake -- but then, what do I have to lose?

Eric

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 9:28am

Like it was mentioned by other posters, she may not know her true height.

I regularly go to 3 different doctors and all 3 measure my height differently - one at 5'9 1/2, one at 5'10 and one at 5'11. If the doctors can't even get it right with calibrated measuring devices, it doesn't surprise me that people just don't know their true height. (I go with 5'11 since that's what my retired GP measured me at from the time I was 19 and done growing)

Maybe she AND Eric are off on their heights? ;)


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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 10:14am

I suppose it's possible, but would someone that tall *really* not know how tall they are? So much so as to be off by 4-5 inches? I can see maybe an inch or two but that's a very large margin of error.

Very interesting about being measured differently by 3 doctors...but I suppose that your posture could have been slightly different each of the 3 times? Again, an inch-1.5 inches I could see...but not 4-5 inches.

Sheri

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 10:17am

To me, someone who lies (whether about height or anything else in their profile) can't be a "great catch" by definition.

As for what you lose, I'd say lose time and effort that could be spent on yourself and/or on finding an honest person.

Sheri

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:31am

Geesh, Sheri - you're coming down awfully hard on this girl and we don't even know for sure if it was intentional.

If it's important to Eric, I'm sure he'll ask her about the discrpancy.


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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:52am
I agree. And with so few women to choose from out Eric's way, I think that he can give her the benefit of the doubt for now AS LONG AS IT DOESN'T MATTER TO HIM. While I think the lying about height (which we still don't know if she did or not) is always a red flag, I would be willing to look past it and see what kind of person they are otherwise. If there are other lies and red flags, you bet - I'll kick them to the curb. But if they seem like an otherwise good person, why should someone receive such treatment because of one thing! JAHD used to give us such a hard time for dismissing a guy for a minor reason. Until this proves otherwise (i.e., she lies about something else), I think this is a minor thing.

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 11:53am

As I said, I simply don't see how lopping 4-5 inches off her height could be an honest mistake. An inch or two, maybe, but that many inches? It's remotely *possible*, I suppose, but it's sure not very likely.

But as you said, if it's important to Eric, he'll ask.

Sheri

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 1:32pm
Well, perhaps Eric was mistaken - could be that she only lopped off 1 or 2...and it just seemed to Eric that it was more like 4 or 5.

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