Details of 1st meet with Antarctica Guy

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Details of 1st meet with Antarctica Guy
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 9:52am

When I walked into the place we were meeting I was pleasantly surprised that he was cute, actually better then his pics which is a first.

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 12:18pm

Hi Sparkle,

Well you got it done and over with and under your belt! You'll go through many meets that just aren't a good thing, but you gotta keep doing it - if you aren't out there meeting people then you'll never have the chance of meeting the good one!

My gf complains that she never meets any good guys, well she rarely even goes out or does anything TO meet them! Duh! She thinks the OLD I was doing was good, but she just couldn't do it - well that is her choice. But OLD *is* hard and can make you feel sad sometimes, but being alone can make you feel sad sometimes also, so I'd rather be out there taking the chance of finding a nice guy (which I have) than to be home complaining about it! Nothing ventured nothing gained!

So what I am saying is that I am proud of you for getting out there and doing it, no matter how hard it can be! Just keep at it and don't let it get to you when they don't work. You were too good for Mr. Naturalle a.k.a. greasy wrist anyway!

And there's nothing wrong with being a girly-girl - I am one also and my guy loves to watch me apply my lipstick and I love that he loves to watch! Many guys love girly-girls!

Have fun with the meets and roll on.... ;)

Sunshine

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 12:31pm

LOL - ok, I get the truck thing now! I had just pictured in my mind this big, shiny truck with racing stripes, those spinning wheels and a purple light on the undercarriage (I live in Dallas, pimped out trucks are everywhere). So now instead, I am picturing one of those monster trucks 4 feet off the ground with giant wheels, running boards, and a big ol' trailer hitch... hee hee. There are plenty of women in Texas that would be impressed with the big truck but not me. I'm not a truck girl either.

Yeah, I think he should have paid anyway. At least made the effort. It is the gentlemanly and polite thing to do. Since you were not feeling it, it probably would have been right to offer your portion (like Sheri suggested), but for him to not make the move to pay is kinda rude. And I definitely agree on the walking you to your car thing - any man with an ounce of courtesy will walk a lady to her car in a dark parking lot even if he is not interested in her romantically.

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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 12:40pm
While there's no doubt this guy was a jerk and insensitive, I will give him props for coming straight out and saying he didn't think you guys were right for each other. (Not that it mattered to you, Sparkle), whereas 99% of other men would be like "Umm....so I'll call you.", when you KNOW they won't and probably don't mind, but still. I hate to have a line like that thrown at me that we both know is B.S.. It's like "DUDE! DON'T patronize me!" I would prefer an honest guy, but they mostly just think we need to be lied to, when really, the only one it benefits is them.
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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 8:11am
I wouldn't write lawyer guy off so quickly as you haven't even meet him yet. I recently started dating a lawyer and he is great but he is also really busy. (and there is none of the HJNITY going on)
On the other hand, I am not 100% sure of how he has been with phone calls/emails with you and how much interest he has shown, where as my lawyer guy has been just about perfect in showing interest. We have only been on 3 dates with a 4th planned for this coming monday but we talk on the phone a minnimum of 4x a week and email daily monday thru friday from work. He has inititiated every phone call except for one.
And right now for some reason I have been getting a lot of interest from other "potentials" and I am not quite sure how to juggle them all as far as talking on the phone or setting up meets/dates as I am quite busy w/ the lawyer. It is about to get tricky as I am trying so hard to not put all my eggs in one basket by continuing to be open to meeting other people and going thru with it, but things *seem* to be going very well but nowhere near the point of being exclusive. My problem is there hasn't been anyone else I am interested in at all until the last week and now it seems they are coming out of the woodwork! LOL I guess all the guys want someone to hang with over the summer or maybe my profile is just so much better than it used to be and the real me is shining through... Crazy. (i think I have managed to answer several different post in my little monologue)
Sparkle, I am sorry it didn't go as well as you hoped, but it does get easier, like LG (I think it was him) said, the longer you do it, the easier it gets and the less you worry about it. Just try and have fun with whatever you do and enjoy yourself.
Best wishes,
J
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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 8:19am

Great news, j!!

Yes, juggling a few can be difficult. But at this stage it will help you keep your perspective about the one guy you prefer.

Good luck and have fun!

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 9:10am

I second everything vexer said, exactly how she said it!

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 10:28am
Hey, I eat all my fries first as well!! Nothing abnormal about that!
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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 10:46am
My ex-boyfriend used to eat his whole burger first, then all the fries.

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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 10:48am
I don't mind a luke-warm burger, but those fries gotta be hot!! I eat them first.
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Sat, 04-02-2005 - 12:45pm

I love how Antarctica guy turned into a referendum on burger vs. fries! Me? I want hot fries too, but I like to have at least a couple left when my burger is done.

Sparkle, I'm sorry it was icky. We all hate those 'so different in person' experiences.

But now you've gotten over the biggest hurdle, meeting your first OLD guy. And you know it's not intimidating at all.

Take heart from that.

SPosa