Did he ghost?
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Did he ghost?
| Sat, 03-25-2006 - 6:49pm |
I have been talking to a guy from the yahoo personals. We exchanged pics, and have been emailing back and forth. LAst week he mentioned meeting for coffee. I asked if he wanted to meet up on the weekend and he said during the week is better since he is closing on his house and the next two weekends would be busy. I said that this past week would be bad since I was starting classes again (I also work full time) but after that would be cool.
On Monday he emailed me and said, "I have a feeling we are just going to have to e-mail
for a while longer.


Not necessarily, but I wouldn't be holding my breath waiting to hear from him, either.
The approach I use early on (through the first 2-3 dates) is to assume that every contact I have with a particular guy is the last one I'm going to have (even if he says otherwise). And I don't mean that I'm sitting around cursing his name or anything...I just release it, let it go, after each email I send, or after each phone call or date I have. If he *does* contact me again, it's a pleasant surprise; if not, oh well, it wasn't meant to be and I'm not sitting around waiting and hoping.
Sheri
I agree, I wouldn't call him a ghost for at least another week, maybe two. This weekend he's painting and over the coming week he's moving & getting the old apartment cleared out... then he still has to unpack and get settled. When you have that much going on in your life, dating just is not a priority. You might want to consider him a "temporary ghost" and leave the possibility open for later.
Tell ya what too, Sheri's approach (assume every contact will be the last) has totally saved my sanity when it comes to OLD!! I don't wait or hope for anyone anymore, I keep a sense of non-attachment and if someone does pursue me, it's a nice bonus.
What state do you live in? lol!! One of my guy friends is in that exact situation. It would be funny if it was him.
I don't think he ghosted. I've been that busy myself where I couldn't squeeze in one more thing.
~dremer