Did Match.com work out well for anyone?

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Did Match.com work out well for anyone?
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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 1:40pm

I signed up for Match.com last week. I have gotten a lot of responses to my profile and am e-mailing with a couple of people.

Anyone dating someone they met on match.com? Anyone know of anyone who has a LTR or a marriage as a result of match.com?

Thanks,

Bunny

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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 1:45pm

I met my last serious BF (were together 1.5 years) on Match. My ex-fiance & I met on Yahoo (3 years there). There is always potential, even at the post office! :) It's just another avenue to meet more people.

Annie

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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 2:36pm

I have had one relationship of about six months from Match, and I do have two friends who married people they met on Match.

However, I don't like the changes that site has made recently so I am no longer actively using it...I have a profile still on there but don't visit the site very often. I've had better luck lately with Yahoo personals and mydate.com.

Sheri

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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 2:50pm

Hi,

What changes did you not like on Match.com?

Bunny

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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 3:26pm

Too numerous to list! But the foremost are the big increase in price, the fact that you can't see more than one photo unless you are a subscriber, and the "who's viewed me" feature which I hate.

Sheri

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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 3:28pm

Hi,

Yeah, that "who's viewed me" feature is kinda weird but interesting. How is mydate working out?

Bunny

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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:43pm

Hi HB,

Good things come in three's!!!

#1. I met TM 6 wonderful months ago on Match. OLD helped me to refine my criteria for who would be an ideal mate for me. Oh yeah, I kissed a few frogs, got proposed to on the first date, once, and generally found every Dawg that exsisted in Texas....they All emailed or im'd me and showed their perverted and socially unacceptable side! But, I would not trade the experience for anything! TM is my love,my friend, my ally, my heart...

#2. My best pal of 30 years met her husband on Match. They dated about 6 months, lived together for another 10, then married last November in a beautiful ceremony at their favorite French restaurant.

#3. Right after TM and I began dating, he asked me to meet him in Chicago for a few days of fun (it surely was! :) On the plane, I sat by a young man(33) who heard us on the cell and said we obviously had a great relationship, where did we meet? I told him, and he then spent the next hour telling me how he met His wife of 18 months on Match...cool that!

Deal is...take it lightly---go, have fun, come home. No expectations, and Never chase a man. Know what you want and don't stray too far from that laundry list. Never settle. Keep dating until someone gives you a Great reason to stop doing so! Forget the ones who think they are Brad Pitt in a Matt Damon suit, and remember that None of us look good with a head cold--ie, be Real!

Good luck!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 1:27am

Hey Happy bunny,
If "worked out well" means LTR then no, but I've had more activity on it than any of the others (e-harmony twice and Yahoo) and I've had some really great experiences on it and met some really cool people. I'm currently at the midway point of a 6 month subscription (2nd time w/match). Each of the two times I subscribed to match I'd met both of my boyfriends within the first week. They were great fun but pretty flaky and committment-phobes and each only lasted about 2 months, but I have no regrets.
I just focus on the meet and not think about getting to a date much less finding the LTR. I look at it like I'm just getting some good practice in for when I do meet the right guy, which may or may not be through OLD. I attempt to improve my conversational skills with every new meet. What to share, what to ask, to be interesting and be interested, to listen, to reveal. That's not a thing that came easy to me as I tend to be a bit of a babbler when I'm nervous. I'm learning more about myself and how to read people. It's really quite awesome when you think about it, two strangers with what? 40, 50, 60+ years of experiences between them attempting to exchange some part of that in a 2 hour coffee date. Quite the challenge.
Match has the data base and if you use it with the goal of meeting people, I do believe it will improve your life and love life if you are pro-active and don't take any sort of rejection personally.

Good Luck and Have Fun!
Chele

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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 1:58am
Jeez, I don't know what it is, because I hate that "who's viewed me" too...yet that's the first thing I look at whenever I log on. What I'm compelled to note is when a guys profile keeps jumping back to the top...like he's reading my profile more than once. Are they just stupid and forget? Whatever...
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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 8:41am

Hi Cupcakechic,

Thank you for your wonderful, informative, upbeat post. I definitely will have an open mind, have fun and make the most of my experiences. And, of course, take my time in getting into any relationship.

Bunny