Did a Trial Week w/Match
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|Thu, 07-16-2009 - 3:45pm|
After a lot of pondering about putting my profile back online, I updated it on Match and yahoo.com I did the week free trial deal on Match and have been getting emails from a guy whose profile looked interesting, decent looking and we had some things in common. I gave him my phone number and he called me. Maybe I'm scared of this whole process since I got burned too many times w/it back in 2005-2006 when I met and went out with a number of guys that never did work out.
For starters, he sounds like a hick...maybe that's wrong to judge someone's voice but he does not sound educated or worldy whatsoever. Then he mentions that he has tattoos. I'm totally not into tattoos but they did not show in his photo & nothing was said in his profile about having them. He may not have them all over his body but it is more than a small one on his upper arm. Then lastly, I asked him what he did for a living and he said he was "between jobs". Had been laid off from a plant and was collecting unemployment. My first thought is that if I was unemployed, I would not be as concerned about finding a dating relationship as finding a job.
Even if his voice was not indicative of his intelligence and even if he didn't have the tattoos, I can't imagine even meeting a guy who is unemployed. I have had my share of CHEAP men in the last few years (all employed but once they knew they "had" me, the going out part dwindled pretty quickly). I am fine with eating at a guy's house or at my own place but not ALL of the time. Also, this guy lives about 80 miles away. I know I'm just starting back into this but maybe I'm not ready. Should I wait and see or try to squelch further contact because he has some red flags?