Hi, wanted to get some opinions on this situation (which started with online dating).
Long-time friends had me over for dinner recently. Their son (late 30s), who I’ve known since he was in jr high school, was also there. I’ll call him Rick. He lives in another city, but was in town for job-related reasons. He was telling us about a blind date he had the other night that went sour.
Rick said he’d been emailing and talking on the phone to a woman who he connected with via an online dating site a month or two ago. They exchanged quite a bit of information, also pictures. They made a date to meet in person (for the first time) at a nice hotel for dinner.
For whatever reason, there was a mix-up in communication about where they were supposed to meet. Rick he had told her to meet him at the entrance to the restaurant. He waited, and waited, and checked the lobby, called her cell and left a msg, and after about 45 minutes he saw her standing there. They shook hands, and Rick says although he found her attractive, she was ticked off and made no effort to hide it. “I’ve been standing here for almost an hour, you said meet you in the bar, and the bar is closed.” Rick says he was taken aback by her tone (she was upset), told her she was supposed to meet him at the entrance to the restaurant, and that he had left her a message. She said her phone petered out, and that she was about to leave when she saw him.
So…..they sat down, and he suddenly remembered she was right………...he had told her to meet at the bar. Rick apologized. Waitress came and Rick’s date was terse as she ordered a drink. Rick said to waitress “Don’t be offended, she’s mad at ME.” (awkward)
After a few minutes of chitchat, his cell phone rang and he stepped away to take an important business call. When he returned to the table, his date asked if he had been trying to arrange a backup date. (?!) Rick said he was so uncomfortable that he just wanted the night to end, so when waitress came to take dinner order he said he asked for the check (for the drinks). Date dropped her jaw. Rick said “It was nice meeting you” and walked her to the door.
Apparently she recharged her phone battery later that night because she called him twice (he didn’t pick up)………tearful messages asking “what went wrong?” Rick said he’s done and has no intention of rehashing the evening with her or seeing her again.
Well, I have my own opinion.
Forty-five minutes is a long time to wait for someone to show up, especially for a first date. She probably thought she'd been stood up, but she should have made sure her phone was charged.
Based on what Rick said, he was turned off at her reaction to the initial mix-up, but also the question about a “backup” date, and the way his date had been rude to an innocent waitress/server. Then……..those tearful messages. The initial mix-up was Rick’s fault, but he did apologize. The woman continued to pout.
Obviously it wasn’t meant to be, but I think Rick dodged a bullet. What say you?