Disappeared?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-15-2004
Disappeared?
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Thu, 11-12-2009 - 3:02pm

I am new to online dating and have encountered a situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2009
In reply to: lunar_gal
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 3:40pm

It happens ALL the time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2009
In reply to: lunar_gal
Fri, 11-13-2009 - 9:54am

I had the exact thing happen! What was funny to me about it; was that he had initiated all the contact...said he would talk to me and we would get together...then he disappeared...I've just sent him one e-mail that said, "if you ever want to talk..you know my e-mail!"

It hurts, but, a good lesson learned about how online men are...maybe he was afraid of judgment? IDK...when I meet anyone, anywhere, they are always greeted with a smile...even online...but for this post..you get a Yay! for learning and sharing with us...thank you...you are not alone :o)

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2008
In reply to: lunar_gal
Fri, 11-13-2009 - 1:52pm

I'm not entirely sure I understand the situation, but what I'm getting is:


- He's visiting your town for a week, during which time he's trying to find a place to live and (here I'm assuming) figuring out various other logistics associated with moving to a new city.


- You're only contact has been exchanging some e-mail messages, though they seemed to be good, encouraging sorts of messages.


- He asked generally about your plans on the weekend. You apparently have some, though I guess not so as to occupy you 24 hours all weekend.


If that's vaguely accurate, I wouldn't make too much of his failure to respond. He's staying in a hotel, or with someone else; using his cell phone; accessing the Internet over someone else's connection or in an Internet cafe or hotel; maybe driving around in a rental car; spending time looking at places and ads and talking to agents and what-have-you; most importantly, he doesn't quite know when he's going to do what, or how long it'll take.


It's entirely possible he wants to meet you, but either:
- He's trying to figure out when or where or how that might work, and isn't responding until he has something to say in his response other than "I don't know."
- He's figuring it's a bit complex or premature or awkward or burdensome on you

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-15-2004
In reply to: lunar_gal
Sat, 11-14-2009 - 8:59am
Thank you all for replying to my post.