The Disappearing Man
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| Fri, 01-06-2006 - 9:32am |
Hi everyone,
Well here's my story... I gave up on the whole OLD thing for a bit. Actually, I haven't really dated anyone for a few months now. I recently started back up and had a really bad, hurtful experience. I met this guy online who happened to be from a different state which is closeby but still, not my state. We chatted a while online and through text messages and RARELY via phone (that was one of the things I noticed right away about him). Anyway, the visit was a nice one and we kept in touch after that, however I noticed that he was noticeably less pursuant of me (didn't IM me when I got online like before, never called and hardly ever texted). When I brought this up to him he said he was just busy (typical excuse) and he wanted to come see me again. Well, he was supposed to be visiting this saturday (tomorrow), and I asked him last wednesday to confirm that he was still coming and he never answered me. That was the last time I ever heard from him. He just completely ignored me after that. How totally cruel and hurtful? The least he could've done was have the courtesy to say SOMETHING. My best friend and everyone else says i'm better off anyway. His "selection" of women on this site (over 200 of them I might add) was pretty shocking too, so I guess maybe I just got mixed up with a really bad one and it's better it happened now.

Welcome to the club, almost all of us have had someone 'ghost' on us. It sucks but it happens. A lot. The key is just learning to not take it personally. It rarely has anything to do with YOU, but the guy has his own agenda and you don't happen to fit into it. You ARE better off without this one.
Don't let it get you down, there are plenty of guys that actually know how to treat women right! Sure it seems like they're few & far between, but they're out there, you just have to keep trying. Or take a break when it gets you down and try again when you're ready. Hang in there!