Discouraged With Online Dating
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Discouraged With Online Dating
| Mon, 12-19-2005 - 4:07pm |
I was just wondering am I the only one that is not having any luck with online dating? For those of you that have met people did it take you a long time? I tried eharmony, but only had two dates off of that neither which were good matches for me. I recently joined match.com and I am having bad luck with that site. It seems to me that match has alot of guys, but most of them seem like players and not very sincere. I also feel that online dating is making me doubt myself. I am in my 30's and I am wondering for most people having luck with this if they are in a different age group. I would love to hear other people's experiences with this.
Thank you,
Karalyn

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I think it's worse during the holidays - people are busy, fall of the planet, etc.
It is discouraging - dating in general is exhausting - but give it time. I have met some very decent men through online dating. I think it's a numbers game, and a matter of exercising patience.
I am in my 30s as well. I think online dating is good for people in all age groups - just give it time and take breaks when you're annoyed with it.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I can't speak for everyone here but I can certainly speak for myself.
I DO NOT do Internet dating anymore, nor will I ever venture into its waters EVER AGAIN. I would rather be single for the rest of my life.
From personal experience, I can place the men I've met from online into four categories:
1. Socially challenged
2. Looking for a model, fantasy, Bond Girl, etc.
3. Trying to forget about someone he Really Loved
4. Wants to get laid
I'm done with online dating, speed dating, and all that. I'll meet guys in the grocery store or book store from now on, thanks.
You mean, there are actually guys out there who *aren't* one or more of those things?
I wonder if it really makes a difference where you meet them...those things seem to be a common thread among single men, period ;-).
But on a more serious note, have you actually met men to date in person? I haven't met any single eligible guys in person for about, oh...five years now.
Sheri
I agree with everyone here, especially this statement; “I DO NOT do Internet dating anymore, nor will I ever venture into its waters EVER AGAIN. I would rather be single for the rest of my life.”
Bingo…, we have a winner…, except I can place the women I've met online into four categories:
1. Emotionally challenged
2. Looking for a Brad Pitt look alike, wealthy, prince Charming, etc.
3. Trying to forget about someone who burned her
4. Wants to have a relationship but has been sexually involved with 5 or more guys in the last year alone.
“I'm done with online dating, speed dating, and all that.”…, I’ll agree with that…, but this statement; “I'll meet guys in the grocery store or book store from now on, thanks.”…, I’ll disagree with.
We will be alone for a very long time because society has bred out the reasons to interact personally with strangers…, at least here in America!!!
Funny thing is, yeah, I have recently met guys in the old-fashioned way. Funny... I'm involved and living with a guy. And they all come out when I'm spoken for.
In the last three months I've met two guys at my work, one guy in a book store, one at a bar and one actually gave me his phone number in the produce isle at the grocery store! That never used to happen before. But as soon as you are involved, they all come out of the woodwork. I don't know why that is...
Anyway I just found Internet dating to be extremely disappointing and I have no desire to ever do it again. I'd rather have my cats and TV and friends. My skin just isn't thick enough for it. (shrug)
Yes, online dating is hard... just ask me.
Yes, it can be frustrating... that's when you take a break.
Yes, you can meet people from those four categories... but you can meet people from other categories as well. I myself do not fall into those categories.
Online dating (OLD)
Coming out of the woodwork here with my 2 cents. I agree, I will NEVER do OLD again. Just for you-know-what's and giggles, I let the match.com "Who's Viewed Your Profile" counter do it's thing. I just watched the "odometer" turn over the other day.....10,000 hits and NOTHING. Yes, you read that right....10,000 hits.
So, I cancelled my subscription to Match. They are sneaky....although I tried to delete my profile, it doesn't actually get deleted. It only gets hidden, so they can try to suck you in again in the future. I sent them a series of very pointed emails that I wanted it to cease to exist so that I wouldn't be tempted in a moment of insanity to unhide it and begin the torture all over again. I've had enough of that to last a thousand lifetimes. Finally they got the message and it's gone. I'm glad that chapter of my life is over.
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