Discouraged - online dating for 50 +

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Registered: 06-17-2006
Discouraged - online dating for 50 +
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Mon, 07-10-2006 - 10:45am
So..I am extricating myself from an almost 7 year relationship, and decided to check out online dating sites. 7 years ago I posted my profile on several of them. I have a unique problem, as I live in a very remote area. I did meet a few men, however, that were willing to make the long journey.
Here is the discouraging part...I still see the same profiles on these sites that I saw 7 years ago!! Are these serial online daters? Are they men that think the grass is always greener on the other side, or there is always going to be something better out there?
Just as an aside, the reason that I broke up with the bf was that I found he had been posting his profile on at least one online dating site. That is such a betrayal - I had no clue.
Also, I would like to hear from other people that are 50+ years old. I am 55 - and really feeling the pressure of time. Will I ever find somebody to spend the rest of my life with in a committed relationship?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-19-2006 - 1:37am

I just turned 53. I realized that the more likely mate would be a woman who is about 10 yrs younger than me because of where I am at in life. I am a non-custodial dad of a 13 yr old daughter and a 17 yr old son and most women my age have grandchildren around my youngest child's age with their childre out of the house. Most women my age are wanting to step out after raising their children and not wanting to share time and attention. I also was out of work for 5 yrs and gave everything to my former spouse at the divorce so I am starting over financially. Women my age seem ready to retire or wanting to do all those retirement type activities which I cannot afford (and do not want to do anyway) like travel.

So I look for a lifestyle match more so than age but I do look for younger because of the above mentioned reasons. Plus I am physically fit and Asian, both of which makes me look younger than women my age (and older). I am attracted to women who do look "young" .. I think it is a cultural thing. So right now I put my search range to be 45 to 55 but really focus on those younger than me. However I have had relationships with women who have been 3 yrs older than me as well.

Mark

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