Discouraged With Online Dating

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2005
Discouraged With Online Dating
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 4:07pm

I was just wondering am I the only one that is not having any luck with online dating? For those of you that have met people did it take you a long time? I tried eharmony, but only had two dates off of that neither which were good matches for me. I recently joined match.com and I am having bad luck with that site. It seems to me that match has alot of guys, but most of them seem like players and not very sincere. I also feel that online dating is making me doubt myself. I am in my 30's and I am wondering for most people having luck with this if they are in a different age group. I would love to hear other people's experiences with this.

Thank you,
Karalyn

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 2:55pm

Time out. Pause.


By saying <> you are talking to a board of people who actively participate in OLD. If you choose not to, fine but please do not insult those who do.


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 3:16pm
I am not insulting people who use OLD. I said that OLD appeals to people who are shy, lonely, jilted or for whatever reason don’t lead an active social life. Not everyone using OLD falls into those categories but from what I've read in this forum and others I think very few people would disagree with me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2003
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 3:16pm

Thank you Kerry!!

FWIW Hal, I lead a very active social life, but I still chose OLD because I didn't hang out with a single crowd and because I found that OLD offered the opportunity to meet more men thus increasing my chances of finding someone.

People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 3:23pm

I'm happy for you. Why are people so sensitive?

I used online dating because I work shifts and as a result I don't get to socialise much.
Heaven forbid that anyone could be as dysfunctional as me!!! Sorry to all those I have insulted...

*SHEEEESH!*

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2003
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 3:41pm

I wouldn't say we are sensitive. Like anyone else in a group we don't like to be labeled as something we are not. For four years I've heard that OLD people are perverts, players, social misfits and a myriad of other things. Granted there are those types of people doing OLD, but those types of people are also walking around in the grocery stores, libraries, etc. Do we label those places? Nope, we march right in those places and stand among them and think nothing of it?

Nuff said IMO

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 3:52pm

>Do we label those places? Nope, we march right in
>those places and stand among them and think nothing of it?

EXACTLY my point. We don't march right in and try to date them. Besides, OLD is a concentrating mechanism. You get all perverts, players, and social misfits from all the different grocery stores, libraries, etc in one convenient location-- Just a click away ;-)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2003
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 3:55pm
ARGH!!! LOL
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-03-2004
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 4:09pm
My situation is that I have five children and don't get a chance to get out much, socially or otherwise. For me, OLD is just an avenue to meet people where I don't have to "baby-sit". This will change in a few years. Fortunately, I've met a few men through OLD who were quite open-minded. I don't think anyone should have to feel bad about where they are in life or what their choices have been. I don't think of myself as a social misfit. I have a lot of valuable traits that I know some people will never be able to appreciate, and that's o.k. I just don't like the negativity I see some people spreading on the board. We can never know what it's like to be someone else until we've walked a mile in their shoes, to quote an old cliche', no pun intended. By condemning and judging others, we're closing our eyes to the truth. That's dangerous in any situation.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-27-2003
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 4:18pm

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ITA! Everyone who uses/used OLD did or does so for their own reasons. Whatever those reasons are they should not be judged by them or labled inappropriately.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2005
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 4:34pm
No disrespect but that is the attitude that will keep you from meeting some great people from old. I’m sorry but meeting someone – the odd’s aren’t like winning the lotto – otherwise more than 50% of our population wouldn’t be married, in a relationship or engaged and a lot of them are from OLD. Yes there are people like that but perhaps you should recheck your status – or redefine what it is you’re seeking – maybe your expectations are high – just a thought or don’t do it. Why not have some fun, open up the doors to women you might not normally pick – u might surprise yourself.