distance btwn us...1st time meeting.....
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distance btwn us...1st time meeting.....
| Sat, 01-20-2007 - 10:02pm |
i "met" this guy by chance on a non-dating site. we started IM'ing each other and emailing each other all the time. it then turned to talking on the phone... we can talk for hours and all night sometimes, it's awesome! the thing is, is i live in canada and he's in the states...i'm also 22 and he's 30 (which is completely fine with me, i know age is just a number..so it is not something that bothers me..just wanted to mention that) ok..so...we've been communicating on the phone, through IM and emails for about a year now. we don't consider ourselves a couple or anything... he does his thing, i do mine. we both aren't going to put our lives on hold because we've never met.. however, we have an unbelievable connection with each other and he still gives me butterflies..hehe... we both have never been married, no kids and have no current relationship now. so... what i came here to get advice on, is if you think it would be a waste of money and time if we met up? we were thinking of going to vegas for a wknd, to see how things go. has anyone here ever done that? and if it goes great in person...does long distance relationships really work or would it just be best to let this go now before i get hurt??? thx ahead of time for your comments/advice...mucho appreciated!!!!! ~~~

I've been on Dating as a Single Parent board for 7 years, and was cl- for most of them.
You might also want to check out the LDR board, there are lots of people on there who have been in your situation and can give some good insight on what comes next and what to expect. I am currently pondering a LDR, but I had the advantage of dating him for a bit before he moved, but the challenges are similar. One thing I would suggest is that if the two of you plan to meet and spend time together is that you have a back up plan just in case things go awry and you can't stand to spend one more minute with the guy. There is nothing worse than being stuck in a hotel room on vacation with a guy that you find you can't get along with.
Good luck,
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i am in the exact same predicament as you, although i haven't been chatting to my guy as long as a year but i live even further away - in Australia. I really think you should meet up, but as someone else said, have a back up plan in case you can't stand each other. What would it hurt to go to Vegas and meet (just don't get married there!!) So what if it doesn't work out? At least you gave it a go instead of thinking "what if" for the rest of your life. If you guys have such a great rapport with each other and you can share anything, i think its worth just seeing what it might be like instead of never knowing.
Having a long distance relationship would be hard, but a normal relationship is hard sometimes too, and you don't not do them in case it won't work out or it'll be hard, why make this one any different? I don't think that it would be much different than what you are doing now, except that there will be more emotional turmoil. You speak a lot, you spend time emailing him, you think about all the time, that would be the same if what you have now developed into a LDR, wouldn't it?
I say give it a go, it's a whole lot better than never knowing!
Good luck and i'd really love to know what you decide and how it goes!
Aussiegal.
I am in a similar situation. I'm in Florida and the guy that I've been talking to for about 2 months now is in California. We haven't gone out on a date and I don't know if we ever will. But we get along very well.
I say go for it! You can't have a pessimistic attitude about relationships. That type of attitude will linger and the next guy that you're with will sense it. Every relationship should be new and fresh;
Also, if you are worried about the guy being different when you meet him in person, then stay in separate rooms. Or stay in separate hotels. That way, if things go awry you have a way out and don't have to see him.
Anyway, keep your chin up. I hope things turn out great for you.
:)
This guy is really still a stranger and NO WAY should they plan to share a room from the get go.
I totally agree!