Do I have to wait for him to suggest??

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Registered: 09-24-2006
Do I have to wait for him to suggest??
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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 11:48pm

SO... I went out on a meet with a guy last saturday, it was fantastic, by far the best meet off of the internet ever for me! (I have had btwn 6 or 7) Physically he isn't what i would usually go for but honestly mentally and emotionally I dont think I could have invented a better guy... he reads AND cooks for fun... and the best part is that he seems to be able to discuss politics AND current events with me, my two main non-physical requirements in a man!!!)We have chatted about 4 or 5 times on MSN since then and they have been very nice little conversations, he knows I am away this week visiting family on the other side of the country. There has been no mention of a 2nd date from either one of us, but I'm taking the fact that we are still chatting to be a good sign... Should I wait for him to suggest getting together again?? Or can I say something like "I will be back on _____ how about hot chocolate and a walk by the river one afternoon after work one day this next week?"? OR is it best to wait??

I just dont want to take the wrong step because this one is super!

Thanks a million!
-Glasses!

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 6:07am

I think it's good to drop a hint but I would wait for him to ask... I used to be ok with asking but recently have become gun shy b/c of a few bad experiences so... what I would do:


Let him know you're coming back and also ask him his plans for the weekend... see where that leads you. If it's nowhere, then you can entertain asking I think.

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 12:35pm

I would wait for him to suggest another date. If he hasn't done so by the time you've been back for a week or so, then I might advise differently but at this point I wouldn't say anything.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-24-2006
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 11:49am

Thanks so much for the advice, I will be sure to slip in some suggestions next time we chat and see where it goes, I will post again once I find out if a second date will occur!!

-Glasses

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Registered: 09-24-2006
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 12:19am

after what seemed like an eternity... I got date #2 and it was SO much fun... we decided that a 2nd date was needed a while ago, and then in a conversation I slipped in an idea and he ran with it... and ta da a second date!!

I now know hinting works!!

Thanks for the advice!!!!