Do I need a break?

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Do I need a break?
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 11:18pm

I've been doing the online dating thing for a few months again and it seems like it is always the same guys lately! I've tried different sites, but keep getting guys who aren't what I am looking for in one way or another (criminal records, un-representative photos, guys that start out great and then fall off the face of the planet before we even meet).

Would it be smart to take a break for awhile until some new guys join, or should I stick it out? I really want to meet someone, but I don't want to just take "anyone"

I guess I know I should stick it out, so does anyone have any advice to power through the rough spells? :-)

Seya

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: seya79
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 1:58am
Maybe you could be more specific in your profile? I really don't know as I am new to OLD. Have you tried other things like joining a club or something? I've tried speed dating too... it was fun and I recommend it.
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Registered: 03-19-2005
In reply to: seya79
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 8:21am
I think it's a good idea to take breaks now and then. Especially, when you get frustrated with the whole thing. During breaks I like spoiling myself. Get back into feeling good about being Just Me. Once you decide to jump back in there's a bit more enthusiasm. New guys join everyday. There just might be a new profile that catches your eye when you get back.
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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: seya79
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:00am
I tried speed dating too a few weeks ago. Had a few matches that seemed good, but they fizzled out pretty quick. I'd like to keep trying, but the string of bad dates that I have had are starting to get to me. All I need is just ONE good one :-)
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: seya79
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:51am

I am a fan of taking breaks when you are feeling fed up.

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Registered: 05-23-2003
In reply to: seya79
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 10:09am

Maybe you do need a break. I found that even though I was optimistic there was a certain amount of disappointment when a first date led to nothing more...I think it showed when I met another new person. I also think that this time of year is hectic for people and they hesitate to start communicating with a new person, or put a profile up until after the holidays. That could have something to do with no new profiles jumping out. Perhaps revamping your own profile would be helpful as well. I would periodically have a look at what other women (the competition) had to say in theirs. I found it to be a helpful gauge of how my profile measured up to the others that were being viewed.


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