Do you believe him?

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Do you believe him?
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Wed, 03-09-2005 - 10:03am

Here is an excerpt from the profile of someone who contacted me yesterday.


I'm the type that would bring you flowers when its least expected. I love important dates like anniversaries, birthdays, etc. I even love to cook, clean, and even shop! Especially when you go shopping for cloths, I like to come into the stores with you to help you pick cloths out and see you in them. I also want to be a father one day. I love children and they love me too. My cousin, who more like a sister to me, has three children and oon as I walk in to see them, they always get excited and run and hug me


 

 

 

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Wed, 03-09-2005 - 4:05pm

Oh darn, I'll have to tape it, tonight is when my girlfriends and I always go out for dinner and drinks - I even have the new guy used to the ladies' night concept - gotta start 'em off early! It was funny, this afternoon he said, "I'll call you later," and then he stopped himself and said, "Oh yeah, it's Wednesday, ladies' night." I was proud of him that he didn't have even a hint of sarcasm in his tone...more bonus points for him! I told him I'd call him before I left.

One of my friends that always goes with us, her guy loves ladies' night because he knows that after she gets home, that they always have great sex! We go to dinner then go to a local bar that has karaoke (no none of us sing!) and just chat and have fun catching up on eachother's lives. We're all blondes and it's funny because most guys won't approach us in our group, but we're there to be with eachother anyway and aren't really looking to pick up guys. Yet I'm sure if an interesting one came along we might let him chat with us! ;) We've made it an important thing that no matter who we are dating, that we keep this night open for eachother as the girls are very important.

We did have a 24 year old flirting with the group last week - he was in his glory - it was so funny! The little sh*t was pretty sure of himself but didn't go home with any of us, which I'm sure was not part of his plan! Oh well.... Vexer, I wish you lived in MI you could come with us!

Sorry I went off the topic here...

Sunshine

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:20pm

Vex-

It was such a short write up that one can not really base a true sense of who a person is. There are no clear red flags! I would hate for her to pass up a potential guy...just because he doesn't know the in's and out's of online dating.

We do discuss great profiles. However if I limited the men that I date to those that only submit great profiles...I would never date anyone.

Again, unless there are any clear...red flags...I say at least give him a chance for a 2nd email.

What is the harm?

 

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:53pm

Hi Hoov,

Wow, he really "Hallmarked" that one,huh?! I am getting the distinct feeling that these men write what we women Want to read, and not always the full truth.

Ex loco boyfriend told me that he did ALL the housework and his ex-wife never did any....funny, he rarely lifted a paw to help around here. I rest my case.

Agree that if he has some of the other 'oars in the water' for you, you could meet him and then make your decision. I kinda thinking that if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck..it Is a duck; ie, he is a man and very little of what he desrcibed is the norm for that gender.

Go. See. Come Home.

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 5:32pm
I agree that there are no glaring red flags, but I just hesitate to write back to someone that seems too good to be true and/or writes worse than a 12-year old. I wouldn't disregard him completely, but I would be on the lookout for all the things he says he loves. It sounds more like he is trying to "impress the ladies" with his usefulness and metrosexuality than anything else.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 12:00pm

cupcakechic...


Pianoguy has to disagree with you a little.....at least when it comes to men writing their on-line profiles.


True....some of us exaggerate our outstanding qualities...and most women are smart enough to detect those exaggerations through the "verbiage" that's used.

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:28pm
Personaly I don't want a guy with me when I shop-yuck.
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 8:44am

Sparkle...


Pianoguy agrees with you.

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 12:25pm

You kill me..throwing in "I like your picture".

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 12:26pm

Right on!

Lisa

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 2:09pm

Hello Again, Sparkle!


Pianoguy gets the 3rd person question all the time.