Do you eliminate the "perfect match" ...

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Do you eliminate the "perfect match" ...
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 11:20am

Do you eliminate the "perfect match" if you don't like that person's looks only?



  • Yes.
  • No.


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Registered: 12-10-2004
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 11:53am

Good question. I'm assuming you mean if you look at a profile, and everything about the text seems okay... but the picture(s) just don't suit your fancy.

And sure, I've done that. It's more or less standard practice. I wish I could say that I haven't, or that I don't do that, but I have, and I bet if people answer honestly they've either done it in the past and/or do it right now.

I mean, if some girl has a mustache thicker than mine or something, absolutely I'm going to eliminate her- even if her profile text is PERFECT for me.

I guess I'm just shallow that way.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 12:45pm

Depends.

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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 12:49pm

Absolutely I would. Let me say, though, that I have a wide range of looks that I like, so if I don't like his looks, I'm not really being picky, just accepting that there are some people I'm just not attracted to. But if Mr. Perfect on Paper has a full beard down to the middle of his chest and is 5'5", for example, then heck yes I'm going to eliminate him!

Sheri

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 12:52pm

Sweetie, just because yahoo matches the two of you or you find their profile intriguing does not mean they are "Perfect."

For me personally, a "perfect match" includes both inner and outer qualities. I have learned over time, a "perfect match" on paper is meaningless- it's who they are in person and how we "click" together.

When you are finding a profile you like but the pictures are a miss, how many pictures are there? If one or two, maybe they just aren't photogenic. On the flip side, I can't tell you how many meetings/dates I've been on where the pictures are sooo much better than IRL.

Dating is supposed to be fun. Take a deep breath, stop over-analyzing everything, and enjoy yourself :)

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 2:53pm
Hey! Thanks for the words of advice! Point well taken. But I'm not sure how this is "over" analyzing!!! If anything, I was thinking that eliminating someone based on his looks alone was almost taking a simplified approach! ;)
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Registered: 01-29-2005
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 2:55pm

No, I don't think you're shallow at all! I think a certain amount of chemistry should be there...

I usually do go by looks in photos first, but I'm making an exception to the rule because the profile is just SO what I'm looking for. We shall see if rules are or are not meant to be broken....

Jayme

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 2:57pm
LOL! I am picturing NWW's Mr Perfect with the beard down to his belly alongside NGOL's Ms Not Hottie with the mustache ;)
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Registered: 09-15-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 3:27pm

Sorry, I should have been more specific. I used "over-analyzing" in the sense of many of your posts I've seen in the past week or two. I know OLD can be an overwhelming and frustating process at times. By all means, I am not trying to be rude. I promise! But when I read this post, I thought geezzzz, is she going to over-analyze everything!?!

Just remember though, Mr. "pefect match" on paper with a cute picture can be just as a bad a date as Mr. "perfect match" on paper with a bad picture.

Just my 2 cents...

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 3:42pm

I think you overanalyzed my simple question! LOL!

Oh, and I never thought you were being rude in your first message....

Anyway, have a great day! Your post gave me the warm fuzzies all over and really made me feel welcome here ;)

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 5:44pm
Touche. :)

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