Do you have trouble.....

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Do you have trouble.....
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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 7:05pm

finding men that you are interested through the online dating? I don't think I'm that choosy but the men who are contacting me are all wrong for me. They are either way too far away, too old, too young or just plain not interesting to me. When I say too young or old I mean over 12 years difference between us.

Am I the only one finding it hard to want to meet these men. I am getting a teensy bit frustrated.

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 9:19pm

I feel the same way! I get, on average, 20-30 emails a week through match and yahoo and most of them I delete. They usually live too far from me, are too old or I'm not attracted to them, they have kids or something in their profile just turns me off. I don't think I'm picky either, but seems like the type of I usual go for is not online. I have, on average, a meet a month. Some are good and I continue dating them. Others, I don't feel the chemistry and it doesn't go any further.

I get frustrated too but I feel that I have to keep trying. So don't give up just yet!!

Layx2

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 9:32pm

Oh, yes!

Linda
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 10:35pm
I've had profiles on match and yahoo up since Friday and have gotten 23 (!) replies so far. Sounds great, except 20 of them were over 45 years old (I'm 26). I'll go out on one date with just about anyone, but I draw the line at a 20 year age differece. So you're not the only one - I don't want to meet these men.






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Registered: 07-20-2001
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 2:52pm

Yes, I'm frustrated and a little angry with my OLD experience so far. I have met 3 men from either Match.com or Yahoopersonals. Only 1 of those three "might" end up being a viable relationship at some point. He's a friend only at this point.

Then, I started talking with a new guy, "Bobby" on Oct. 12. We talked almost daily online and have had 2 phone conversations. All seemed to be going well, but now I haven't heard from him at all since last week (Oct. 19). He's also hidden his profile on Match. Either he's met someone else or has lost interest (weird, since we were just starting to get to know each other and he talked like he wanted to meet). I honestly do not know what to think. But, I do not like this scenario, and this is the first I've had that was quite like this one. This guy SEEMED normal, but I'm baffled as to why he is no longer contacting me. :0

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 6:13pm

I relate to all of you, my dating scene gets stale most of the time :( The guy who contacted me two weeks ago, just go out of a relationship, told me he thought he had found the one, but she broke his heart going back to her ex. Too much info, too soon, and I personally don't want to play therapist or be a rebound girl. I told him to heal and then to contact me if I am still avail. He took it as a challenge, he still wants to meet me, said he's sooo over her and to give him a chance. But with so many dissapointments, I don't know if I should even give him a chance to meet.

Here's my dating history over the past 3 mos:

I've been seing this guy, whom I met online too, but I don't feel nothing for him and it just breaks my heart to tell him that I am just not feeling it! Another one, that we are taking it sooo slow, we've been on 3 dates, and we've only hugged, he said he's looking for an LTR, me too, but I think I need more physical attention, I mean kissing at least! Then another one that was coming to meet me from S. Fco. and then backed out at the last minute, we're still emailing and talking on the phone, said he's coming over in two weeks, we'll see. Another one that we were going to have a 4th date, just did not return my call and never heard from him again. This was someone I really liked! (sigh). And another one that I had some sort of relationship (FWB) last year and is contacting me again, this is a guy that I was really into, and we've only been emailing and occasional phone calls. He wants to see me this Saturday... who knows we might rekindle the flame! I don't know, this is a guy I really like, but I don't know if he will be there for the long run. So this is my dating life right now, not a pretty picture ha!?

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 7:42pm

Oh yes! they are too old, too young (15 yrs or more), married, have a girlfriend, live too far...Its gotten so bad, I've decided to make certain "allowances" and the selection is still not very good.

Jeanie C.