Do you remeber the James Bond guy?

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Do you remeber the James Bond guy?
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Fri, 10-28-2005 - 12:34am

There was a guy on yahoo that had some reference to something about James Bond in his email to me, something about martini's I think.

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 12:08pm
You go girl!! Don't play second best to anyone!!
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 12:42pm
Talking about second bests, that I say "no thank you", I was online yesterday, IMing with a new guy, then I got another message from someone else. I went to check what this guy was about and he called me for my name asking if I remembered him. I checked his pics and for the life of me, he looked familiar but I could not recall him. I told him no I don't remember you, if I ever talked to you I forgot since I guess there was not enough mutual interest. He told me that we went to dinner once at my favorite rest. (a year ago) and told me his name, then I remembered, it was a one-time date, he seemed nice but not enough for me. He never followed up neither did I. Well, he was telling me that the reason he never called again was that he had gone out with someone else and now it ended, asking if I would be interested in trying again. What?! I said no thank you, I will never be a second best to anyone. I guess that's one of the disadvantages of being in OLD for toooo long and not finding anyone worth it. Once in a while some of these jerks would contact me like hey I see you are still looking, yes, I may still be, but I don't look back only forward!
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Registered: 05-09-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 3:18pm

As far as keeping your options open, how come you do not want to meet James Bond?

My gf met a guy online who had stated he was dating someone and they decided not to meet. 2 months later he contacted her stating the situation didn't work out and they met and have been dating ever since.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 3:19pm
When it comes to keeping options open, why is it about second best??
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 4:39pm

In my opinion I say a second best is when you met someone, but that someone was not really interested in you as a potential date and opted to go with someone else who caught their interest better. Then later they come back asking if they can date you now that it didn't work, even months later when you have already forgotten about them, moved on and met other guys or probably dating someone steadily. Why go back, if at the time it did not materialize, who says it'll work this time? I see as if they didn't think I was the best thing that happened to them and they blew it. I go, oh well, and turn the page and go forward.

About keeping your options open, I would say to stay open to date other guys who may have more potential to accept you, pursue you, value you, for YOU. I have made this my mantra, I would only date guys who are available, crazy for me, treat me well and show me that it's worth it to keep dating them.

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Registered: 08-10-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 7:25pm
I have been on the other side of this....there was this one guy (guy A) that I would check out his profile hed check out mine...this went on for weeks. I took a break, came back with a "flashy" profile and he winks at me...I wink back....in the meantime I go on a first meet with someone else (guy B)..we hit it off...I took down my profile a week or so after the wink from guy A...guy A emails me asking where did I go? I wrote him a short email explaining. I really did want to meet guy A but I didn't want to mess up what I had going with guy B. It was a case of you snoze you lose on guy A's part. It was never a matter of guy B being better than guy A. I never met guy A to be able to say....so I would at least go on a first meet with James Bond. Sometimes its a matter of timing not who catches you eye more.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 7:32pm

I don't know.

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Registered: 10-08-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 9:01pm

I got a similar message from someone who probably thought he was just being honest and sincere, telling me he was going on a second date with someone, but if it didn't work out, he'd like to contact me. I was uninterested in being "put on the back burner" and contacted only if his current situation didn't work out so I said no thank you.

Having said that, I think that you should do whatever you want....it's not going to hurt anything if you go out with this guy! :)

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 11:52pm

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I agree. This is such a numbers game and sometimes it's feast or famine. Some people just aren't good with too much juggling or only have the time or desire to focus on one person at time.
He never met you so it has nothing to do with being 2nd choice. If you like the look of him and his words appeal to you then I'd give it a shot. What have you got to lose?

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 6:40am
This happens all the time. It totally depends on the situation for me. I don't mind dating someone who comes back after telling me that he is seeing how it will work out with someone new. Just makes sense to me.

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