Do you use your real name.....

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Do you use your real name.....
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Thu, 08-28-2003 - 2:35am
.......here on our board and in your profile? Yes or No and Why? (I remember Marie once posted she is not using her real name here...Marie correct me if i'm wrong ok).

- Well i do use my real name here (not the full 1st name though which is Jennifer), i have not put any profile on any ad but if so i'll still use my name because i don't have anything to hide and i have no reason not to use it. And i love my name..

What is your answer?

~~Jen :)




Edited 8/28/2003 5:55:50 AM ET by jen_nv16

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 10:02am
Hi Jen,

Good question! I do not use my real name, either here or on my match.com profile. On my profile, I don't use a name at all, I just made up a username. It makes me feel safer somehow - it was hard for me to put my photo out there for the world to see, and I think the fact that any ol' creep doesn't have access to my picture AND my name makes me feel better. Maybe it's silly, but it makes me feel better. But I do use my real name when I email guys or respond to guys who email me. As for these boards . . . Ginger is not my real name. I'm a pretty private person and I would be a lot less apt to share things on these boards if I were signing my real name. With a 'fake' name, I feel like I can talk pretty freely about my life and about the people in my life without worrying that someone I know will read it and know more about me than I want them to. Gosh, now that I'm writing this, it sounds like I have something terrible to hide, which is not the case . . . I just have issues with being open about my feelings (something I'm working on and getting better about - and I think posting on these boards is helping! :-).

ginger (NOT my real name :-)

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 11:47am
Yes, I use my name. I am like you, I really do not have anything to hide either. WEll, my life is really boring, so no news there. lol I dont mind, but I wouldnt use my whole name, like last name. Safety reasons.

gail::)

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Registered: 07-05-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 12:44pm
When I first receive an email from someone on a dating site I write back and sign with my username (which it not my real name) or intial. Sometimes I don't hear back again, or I receive a response that raises a red flag. And then I'm relieved that I did not reveal my name. If it seems that there is mutual interest then I begin using my real name. Keep in mind that this does not go on for long because I only exchange a maximum of 4 emails before I move to talking on the phone. I also try to meet men within the first week of initial contact. I do have my photo posted though on the dating site. If someone recognizes me I don't mind - they know my real name anyway. I'm just trying to protect my identity from strangers I don't care to meet.

On this board I obviously don't use my real name (What parent would name their child jhoover? LOL). Even without using my real name I sometimes wonder if someone I know might possibly read my posts and recognize who I am. There are some things I've written that I'd rather not share with some people that I know (referring primarily to acquaintances and colleagues).

jhoover21

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 5:52pm
I do not, nor do I use it in my aol address, but I just started using my real first name in my dating site profiles. I don't use my real name for privacy reasons as Manhattan, surprisingly, is a very small town and I already met someone on ivillage that I used to work with and another person who I have mutual friends with.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-28-2003 - 8:35pm
I use my nick name, la_de_mafi but alot of people know that my name is Nikki. I used to use Nikolette for IRC and ICQ and that is my real name too.. I don't give out my last name though..
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Sat, 08-30-2003 - 10:01am
I agree with you Ginger. But for me, once I feel comfortable and really trust an online friend, that's the time to reveal my true identity. You'll know when it's time. right?

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Registered: 07-31-2003
Sun, 08-31-2003 - 8:11pm
I do use my real name in profiles and all that. I just use my first name...what's the harm I figure. It's not like I'm giving personal info like my phone number or anything. Even if they do some how find out my last name (I don't know how they would unless they were some sort of cyber psycho stalker)I live at home so it's under another name:). Chat rooms of course I use a handle but everyone does that and I haven't gone in a chat room in a millena...lol.

M.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-01-2003 - 1:12pm
I use my real name, but I usually don't give out further info on here, or in chat rooms, such as my son's name (it's not common), my bf's name, or my last name. Kelly (kelstev) knows their names, she's the only one though.

It'd be wierd/awkward/wrong/etc. IMO to lie & then later on have to tell someone "Oh, by the way, I lied .. my name isn't Mary Jane, it's actually Bobby Sue".

~Stephanie

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Registered: 07-05-2003
Mon, 09-01-2003 - 1:25pm
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The guy I've been seeing for just over 2 months now (we met online) didn't find out my real name until the third email. The first time we spoke on the phone he joked and asked if he passed my security test. He was not at all offended that I wanted to protect my privacy until I felt comfortable. He realized that although HE knew that he was "normal" - to me he was still a stranger.

jhoover21

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