Does this bother anyone else?

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Does this bother anyone else?
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Tue, 11-01-2005 - 12:20pm


Hi everyone,

I haven't posted in awhile. I have been reading posts to learn more about online dating. Anyway, I haven't seen this discussed and I have no idea why it bothers me so much. I am casually dating and the men I am dating are also looking just for casual dating. No commitments, no rules, no strings. I have more than one man in my life and I am sure they have more than one woman in their life. It is not discussed, no one feels the need to. I have always been on the same page with this with the men I am involved with. The problem is this. I have checked out their personal web pages and have seen that they are flauting their female contacts or flaunting their interests in porno sites. This are public sites, I am not snoopy into their private business. Both interests are normal for a healthy male. I know that and without any mention of it or without physical seeing their interests, I am well aware of their interests. So, why does it bother me and completely turn me off when I see that they are flaunting their interests in several women or their interests in porno sites? This has happen twice to me already. I just can't have anything to do with them after I see this. Why? Am I doing the right thing?

Thanks in advance.

Carol

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-01-2005 - 4:22pm

I dated someone a couple times who gave me a link to his blog, and I really didn't like the experience. I don't think I'd date someone again who felt that sharing his personal life with the whole world in a non-anonymous manner was appropriate.

So, yes, if I were experiencing what you are, it would definitely bother me and I would stop seeing them also.

Sheri