Does this ever happen to you....

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Does this ever happen to you....
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 8:38am

...on yahoo?? I have had this happen several times and I just don't get it! I have a guy wink at me and say something like "I like your smile, want to chat?" (that's the most common wink anyways). I check over his profile and most of the time if he's not a match, I don't write back at all. Then a couple weeks later I get another wink from the guy saying "Thanks, but I don't think we are a good match." or "Thanks but I just met someone" or "Thanks but im taking a break from dating" WTF? Why would they even write me back again after not hearing from me? Is this their way of getting a stab back at me? Or are they just trying to get a rise out of me? Has this happen to anyone else? Like I said, this has probably happened at least 5 times to me. Weird men!

Layx2

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 8:50am

Layx,

As you are probably aware by now, if a guy sends you a message like "Hi, I like your smile, wanna chat?" there's a high probability he's not very serious. Perhaps he ought to just come out and say "Hi, wanna roll in the hay? My wife is out shopping."

I haven't had the particular issue you mentioned but I currently have something wierd going on with a woman that winked at me about 2 weeks ago. She's incredibly good looking and I'm sure she gets flooded with alot of e-mails and winks. But she keeps hiding her profile multiple times per day so when I log in sometimes, I don't see her. I'm thinking she may be married or she's getting alot of lewd e-mails. She has a body shot that's kind of suggestive but I won't elaborate on that other than say she's built better than Jamie Lee Curtis in her early days. Sigh......

TT

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:06am
Hi, layx. That used to happen to me on yahoo and I found it annoying. It does seem like a stab for not writing them back. There was one guy who sent me a wink (he obviously hadn't read my profile at all) and then a couple weeks later sent me the "thanks but I just met someone". I got so annoyed that I sent him the one that says "sorry, we're not a good match." Then I blocked him. I felt a little childish but in a good way :)
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 10:02am

I had that happen once - and the guy in question had

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 10:08am
When you send a wink to someone, they get saved in your mailbox. When you go back and delete the messages you have sent people from your mailbox, you are given the option of "Sending a courtesy reply" or just deleting them. I personally just delete them if I had sent a wink and they didn't respond back - kinda dumb not to, right? Well, maybe these guys either 1) haven't figured out that you do not HAVE to send the courtesy reply when deleting the original message or 2) they are trying to get one last jab at you for not replying to them in the first place.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 10:21am

Bingo! And in their defense, the system IS set up so it makes it sound like you will be a horrible person if you don't send a "courtesy" reply before deleting (and it's not at all clear that you can just hit delete and bypass that).

Sheri

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 11:56am

T-

I've had the now-you-see-me-now-you-don't profiles too. It always has creeped me out. I'm also creeped out by anyone ultra good looking (red flag that the pic ain't matchin') or ultra aggressive.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 1:50pm
If they winked at you, you remain in their mailbox under people they've contacted.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 2:34pm

Yes! That did happen to me once. This guy sent me an icebreaker and I didn't respond.
Days later, I get a 'Sorry we're not a good match' from the same guy. ?????

I thought he was trying to reject me because he didn't hear back.

That's weird.