doesn't make eye contact on 1st date?
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| Tue, 05-31-2005 - 11:22am |
Well, I went out with the first guy I met on match.com after a couple of emails from both of us and about 5 hours of phone conversation. I thought we had good phone chemistry and a lot in common. He's a genuine and good person on and off-line as far as I can tell. My type in many ways. But when I met him, he looked different from the photos as I was expecting someone bigger and healthier looking. He said he's sick and has been for the last few days, which he is and his cheeks were sunken in but can someone look that different when they're sick? As for me, he said I looked better than in my pictures so I'm glad that my pictures aren't misleading. He also didn't eat with me when we went out for dinner because, again, he's sick so I felt a bit odd about that.
Also, he would not look into my eyes for half of the date which I found kind of annoying, and I asked him why he doesn't. He said he's like that when he meets new people. To put a damper on the date, he was waiting for the bus with me so I can get on and I felt sick and almost fainted. He wanted to call an ambulance but I just wanted to sit down so I kissed him on the cheek and got on the bus. He called me a few minutes later to see if I was okay and said he didn't know what to do, he felt bad for making me walk around a lot which we sort of did and thought this may have caused it, and he said he would have paid for the hospital bill and pretended he's married to me since I don't have insurance at this time, lol. He asked me to call him to see if I got home safely. I did, and he said he wasn't sure if I would want to go out with him after the date but promised to call me again today which I'm sure he will since he seems to keep his word.
So I'm debating whether I should go out with him again, mostly because of the whole eye contact thing. Has anyone else on here met a guy who did not make eye contact with you when you spoke with him at the beginning of the date? When he did look into my eyes, I felt chemistry, but when he didn't, well, I felt ignored even though he responded to everything I said. I guess I was hoping for someone more warm in person and it took him some time to warm up and look into my eyes, touch my arm, smile at me, etc. What do you all make of this guy?

I tend to be a little
<<< I'd say if there were no glaring red flag dealbreakers, why not go ahead with a 2nd date and take it from there. >>>
I'd call offering to commit insurance fraud a red flag. :)
Sounds like a nifty first date ;) Yes, I think the eye contact thing is a little strange myself (I also experienced a date who averted eye contact- very odd indeed).
What really strikes me as odd, is why someone so sick would want to proceed with a first date?
At any rate, and if you're really not sure- you could always give it another whirl and see if your impression of him changes after another date (assuming he truly was having an off day). From what you mentioned, I don't think I would. Too many things don't sound right.
Guy sounds like he could use some vitamins.